Does anyone have the problem like I do of "accepting" other people's projections about ourselves? It's been a big problem for me because I'll be whatever people think I am. (Or at least in the past have done this. ) I've noticed T will say things to me sometimes .... like for instance when I told him that I wanted to come every week, he told me that he thinks I just want to be close to him. when I left, I was so freaked out that he said that. I thought, it's as if he's afraid that I want to be close to him. And then I thought he's projecting his fears onto me. And, then I thought, Oh, he's pretending to project fears onto me and making me stronger. Because that's what people do IRL all the time, project their fears onto other people.

I realized that yes, I did want to feel close to him but that I saw it as a healthy sign that I wanted to go weekly, that I was letting him get close to me. I went back and told him that and he shook his head yes.

And, so while it might have sounded wierd to others that T said that, I do think that these T's use certain therapeutic techniques to help us overcome whatever problems we have.