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thisismycatfaceMember

Psychiatrist asked me if I entertained sexual or erotic fantasy's about him. I am female. He is male. He said he asked because usually between men and women there is a charge and it's either paternal or sexual. The fact is our relationship is so clearly paternal that I don't even know why he had to ask me that. Also, I'm very candid in therapy, so if that was the case-I would have just told him to his face when if I had. I feel really disappointed and it kind of really hurt my feelings and I feel like I don't want to go back now. It was kind of insulting. I feel like now I won't be so candid, I'll be much more guarded. To be honest I felt more like he was an older brother mentor and I told him that too. I was like there aren't any other options only sexual and paternal? He said for the most part, nope PLease help.

3/9/116:44 PM

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yakusokuMember

I could see why he might be curious, but it would bother me if my T asked that out of the blue like that. I guess I would feel like it was attack. I get what you're talking about with the big brother feeling. I've had a couple of figures in my life that weren't quite like a parental figure, but still a slightly older, caretaker role. Like my youth pastor (who also ended up being my high school chemistry teacher). He was eight-years-older than me and I saw him like a big brother I could count on. He was wiser, an authority, but not at all like a parental figure as some others have been.

3/9/118:23 PM

thisismycatfaceMember

thanks for the response. he actually prefaced the question with this line of questioning may seem out of the blue but. . . .

yakusokuMember

Ugh...there has to have been a better way to get at this topic. If I were being especially open and my T asked me a question like that, it would make me feel untrusted and less willing to share too.

sadlyMember

He was not sensitive enough with the way he approached this question, for me. So I am sorry how you had to be on the recieving end of that.

I have MANY ways of relating to T's. One is like a sweet sister to me, another like my daddy and I am quite little, another was like a big brother. So he is wrong, there ARE many ways of relating.

Silly man.

blackbirdMember

Yikes, that seems like a really scary question to ask. But then my T was not much for initiation conversations of a difficult nature, which in retropect I appreciate.

I hope you can bring this up with him and find out what the heck he was trying to do.

And btw, welcome to the forum.

BB

cncMember

please tell me there was more to this post and it was deleted? I thought i read "thisismycatface" write about her session in length. It took three posts.

Did i imagine that writing?
Starting to think i am crazier then i think i am....

CNC

True NorthCo-moderator

CNC you are not crazy. She must have deleted it.

TN

3/10/1110:01 PM

sadlyMember

I hope you are okay Thisismycatface, and have sorted it out a bit with your P

thisismycatfaceMember

You are not crazy. I gave a very specific account of what happened. I'm sorry if you felt crazy.

cncMember

Thisismycatface,

Please don't worry about having taken the messages down.

Your session is so similar to what i need to have the nerve to do soon, that when it was gone i wondered if i had imagined it was there.

It is inspiration

Thank you for sharing,

CNC

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