Hi da rock I have been doing psychoanalysis for the last 6 years, I only go 2 times a week but both my T and I feel I would benefit going more often but unfortunately I can't afford it

And yes I do lie down on the sofa but it took me 4 years before I felt safe enough to do that. I don't have a partner so I don't have the same issues as you. If my money issues should change for the better I would definitely up my sessions as they have changed my life

Luci

hey luci, yeah. analysis is pretty cool.
sorry you cant afford more.
does your insurance help pay?

I'm from the UK so don't have insurance, NHS here is rubbish so I had to find my own private therapist

Luci

hi luci and da rock,
i'm in psychoanalytical psychotherapy (maybe more or less the same thing) but my T has an option of a chair facing her OR a couch where you lie down and she doesn't see you. i would also like to go more often then once a week but unfortunately its not possible, mainly due to her working hours but also finance would be a bit difficult too.

i do feel her style of working is helping me but i only tried the couch twice - just recently - in the one year i have been seeing her! i would be interested to know what your experiences are with it and why it is better then just sitting in a chair facing your T? i found it difficult not being able to see T's face and her reactions while i talk, but generally i also find it difficult if she sees me and i just feel i want to hide most of the time... sorry to hijack the thread to go on about my stuff...

da rock, why do you think your girlfriend is so threatened about you being in analysis? do u think if u just called it therapy more then once a week she would feel better about it? just wondering if its because analysis has a bad name? has she ever been in therapy? its a very unfair and tough decision you have to make - you shouldnt have to chose between your partner and therapy. its really unfair of her to give you ultimatums like that. but maybe she just feels insecure about your relationship? maybe if she felt more reassured that she would still be important to you and you would still have time for her she would feel differently??!...

i hope it goes well.

puppet

Hi puppet

For me I think laying down makes it so much easier to talk, like I said in my earlier post it took me years to lay on the sofa. Like you I wanted to be able to look at my T ( although I still struggle to do this...I just glance at her) we just talk again and again about how laying down made me feel.. And then one day I just did it and now lay down all the time.

I do tend to curl up in the foetal position but somehow I feel closer to my T

I can still look up at my T if I want to, I can't really explain it puppet but I do know I have more progress laying down on the sofa and just saying whatever came into my head

Luci

thank you luci, that gives me hope!

puppet