TN - I sometimes wish my T and I discussed psychology stuff more often, but I am chicken about it for some reason, as if he is going to be angry about me educating myself, although he has never done anything to suggest he would. I guess I am kind of used to surrendering power in that way, not defying the authority (at least openly).
Yes, the monkey is quite big. His head is the size of a soccer ball and he is nearly as tall as Boo...well, if he were able to stand up.
I imagined sneaking in with him all stealthily to one of our late sessions and hiding him in the room where they keep the toys and games for kids, then telling T I wanted to get something from that room and having him go and find it in there, LOL. I think he might actually be more excited then me. When he had that dang monkey rattle in there for a few weeks, he regularly glanced at it or picked it up and shook it. I think he was trying to show me how OK it was to be that little kid. I might have thought he seemed a little ridiculous at times, but it was cute and sweet and I didn't judge him about it (other than the annoyance of the rattling). So, I think he was trying to let me experience the other side of that and see how it can be safe to be that kid with him. I was disparaging my teenage parts last night and he made a comment about still having teen stuff too and how that is OK and "great," and how he likes teenagers (including all mine).
Anyway, I'm saying all this, because although your T might be a little less goofy about it, I cannot see anything but safety in your sharing that vulnerable little kid with him. I wonder if your T does or would be willing to let you experience that other side of the inner child stuff. Seeing his own acceptance of himself and feeling your acceptance of that part of him might help you feel safer accessing your own in front of him. I know it has made a real difference to me seeing my T's (more integrated and accepted) child-like qualities shining through. I know it's not quite as scary for him to be vulnerable with that stuff (presumably because he has done his own work), but that he trusts me with it means a lot.
Just yesterday, I didn't like something I was sketching in my notebook during a session, so crumpled it up and tried to throw it across the room into the wastebasket and missed. I played basketball and get pretty humiliated when I miss stuff like that, but I felt comfortable missing in front of T, although irritated at "sucking." I went to retrieve it, but it had rolled behind a sofa-chair, so I sat on the floor, tried to fish it out and ended up asking if I could move the chair and throwing it away. T was "so happy" that I felt comfortable to go retrieve it, to ask and move the chair with ease. I did not worry very much about how ridiculous I looked trying to fish the paper from behind the chair. It was a very childlike moment where I wanted to do something and did it and trusted my T. It made him so pleased to see me be safe with him and it I got filled with so many good feelings about his seeming pride in me and my progress. It was a meaningless action that turned into a meaningful interaction. Now, if only I could have had the courage to look him in the eyes and see his pride, rather than just hear it in his voice, it would have been perfect!