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Sad my Therapy's Ending

R redcloakMember
Hey guys, this is my first post so I hope i actually do everything right but I found it really nice there is a place like this that people can talk anonymously. I felt I could bring up this issue here becuase people might relate.

I've been seeing my therapist for the past two years. I had crippling anxiety when I first came and I couldn't even go to school. At one point it got so bad I had to go to therapy everyday. Two years on and I'm doing really well and feel better than I ever have which I credit in no small way to my amazing therapist. She has really gone above and beyond with her care and consideration. Because I was 13 when it started (now 16) I went to a public therapist so it was free. Normally you get max six to eight sessions but my therapist has been seeing me for two years and has really believed in me. I see her as a friend in some ways and she said she really enjoys our chats. She has been suggesting for a while because I have flourished so much it was time to stop. We gradually stretched out our time to once a month and now she says in the new year we will have three more sessions and end in March and then go for coffee afterwards and that will be it.

I knew this was coming and I realize she is really busy and I am better now. I am in no way saying she is doing the wrong thing, but I still feel really down about this. I really enjoyed this part of my life. I felt like i finally had time just for me where someone only wanted to hear about me and how I was, not about my family or friends. I also have grown quite attached to her as she is so nice and caring so I feel like I will be losing a friend and that really saddens me. I really looked forward to seeing her every month and really enjoyed are time together as well as the fact she completely changed my life. I was always an anxious child but it struck very badly when I was 13, and she has given me the strength and tools for life to tackle my anxiety. She is if disaster ever strikes again that she will be there and it's not like her door is closed forever once we stop but I'm pretty sure this is the end for me and her. It feels right in some ways but I can't BELIEVE it's ending in some.

Anyone gone through the same situation or have any advice? Thanks for reading
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forgetmenotforgetmenotMember
Hi Red Cloak and welcome to the forum. I've not experienced an end to therapy but I have experienced repeated loss when leaving the person you love and feeling somewhat empty.

Is there no chance therapy could be extended? Perhaps you could see if you could contact each other on an occasional basis?

The pain of those feelings are very real. Do you have any good friends and family who can support you. Don't be scared to reach out to them at times. Darn the cruelty of human emotions. Keep strong though. I really feel for you. I know exactly what those feelings feel like.

YOu can talk to us anytime. This is a great forum for sharing and caring! Ha Smiler (((hugs to you)))

Sorry I can't magic wand it away. I would love to for you because they arn't pleasant. Keep strong darling. xx
B beaglebrainMember
Hello , I can totally identify with how you are feeling . My therapy comes to an end in March after two years with the most caring understanding person i`ve ever met . Ever since we set the date 3 weeks ago I can feel all the old fears and anxiety about loss coming back but my T assures me that this is normal and we will work through this together . I`m glad I read this post today because I was wondering whether I was on my own in feeling this way . Those are very wise words that you have posted Echo . It is making me cry reading it but yes it is true that we will always carry part of our T with us . I can also hear my T`s voice and feel her warmth inside and the memories of the times when we have laughed together . My T says that I will be ready for the big wide world again and I hold on the the fact that I trust her and she has never told me any thing which hasn`t been true and I think because I can hear her voice prompting and encouraging me and saying that I will be ok it gives me the strength to work through the grief and pain with her . I sort of feel also that I`m ready because where I was to where I am now , like yourself is also a huge thing to hold onto as well . I think these people sometimes have such an impact on our lives and with the tools and hope that they have given us we can only carry on growing and because we carry them inside of us no one can take that away from us . Good luck over the next few months red cloak and to any one else who is going through this as well .
blubluMember
((red cloak))

Hello, and I applaud you for your courage in getting to the end of therapy. It's no easy ticket! The ride is a hard journey, so good on you!

The feelings of grief are so hard, and I can identify with you on this as I am in the ending of a 7 year relationship with my therapist.

They say that the ending, and going through the grief and pain with our T's can be a very special part of therapy, and I guess it is, but wow, it is painful as well isn't it?

It is true though that we take part of our T's with us, and the their impact on our life is something that can never be taken away.

I hope the in the next few months with your T, that you will find the grief subsides, and you can walk away at peace with yourself, and with pride in a job well done! Smiler


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R redcloakMember
Thanks for all the posts. But now because all my families home for Christmas there is more stress and anxiety than usual example like my birthday on Sunday that ended in tears when I said to my brother he "Hadn't done the wash up", he got really angry and then he tried to force open a door on me when I was in the the bathroom because I wouldn't answer his question of who had asked him to wash up. So now we're not talking and I feel really stressed and anxious and wanna talk to my T but my mum says that she is really busy and I can deal with this myself. I also am upset because I wanna enjoy the run up to Christmas, but I cant with all of my family in bad moods.

Thank you again for the posts, the advice had been really good and it's so nice to hear from people who are going or who have been through a similar situation!

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athenacusathenacusMember
(((hugs)))
I congratulate you on your hard work!

I'm going through something similar. I've spent the last 20 months w/my T. I'm going to miss her soooo much! We are ending in April. We have had sessions stretched out for quite a while now. I only see her once every 3 or 4 weeks.

Just wanted to let you know that there is yet another person who is going through this too. You are not alone.

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