Thanks BB. What you say makes sense and is very non-pathologizing. I appreciate it.
So, yesterday I went to visit this other T. My first impressions were not the greatest. The parking lot behind her building was tiny and confusing to navigate. The painted lines were barely discernible and people were parked every which way. I hate that kind of thing, cuz not knowing what I'm "supposed" to do always throws me, lol.
Anyway, I made it into the building and the waiting room felt a little disappointing. Colors and furniture didn't seem well coordinated and the decor was a bit kitsh-y. It was also cramped in there and small. It gave the feel of a more "budget" kind of operation, which is odd because this T charges about the same hourly fee my regular T does and they both seem to have full case loads, yet Ts office set up definitely has a more elegant and luxurious feel. I suppose she's simply prioritized that aspect of things more.
Anyway, I was sitting there feeling a bit out of place and homesick for T's office, when I started thinking that really aside from this punctuality and scheduling issue, T herself is nearly perfect, I was hardly likely to find anyone better or that I had a more complete rapport with, and what was I doing here anyway? This attitude seemed a bit unfair to the T I was about to see, cuz it was basically setting her up for failure, but I couldn't quite help it.
Once I actually met her and was ushered into her office things got a bit better. Her office was roomy and comfortable, she had the softest and coziest recliners to sit in-- I really loved that, lol, it felt so relaxing, and she offered me something to drink, which seemed to set a friendly tone to things.
She herself is late middle aged, calm, mild mannered, seems confident and very polite. I didn't have the nearly instant intuitive recognition of "rightness" that I felt when I met T for the first time, but neither was there anything about her that felt at all objectionable, either. She actually had a very relaxing presence.
Basically during the session I filled out paperwork, gave her a brief description of my problems and desires for treatment, which I think included all the salient points but was sketchy on detail, and she described her overall approach and treatment recommendations. In a nutshell, she's really into hypnotherapy and seemed to think that my issues were of a sort that we could expect good results from that approach. I have troubles with "spacing out" and "floatiness" that can be very annoying. My current T has taken the more traditional route of trying to get me to recognize what triggers these episodes and what the triggers mean-- this T implied that by working with altered states of consciousness she could train me to pull myself out of a dissociative state and operate from a more fully present consciousness. This sounded *very* promising and attractive, supposing it's true, but I'm not at all sure how I feel about being hypnotized. . . I told her this and she mentioned some things about how it's very gentle and safe when done by a trained clinician, but said I should research it for myself and call her later to book an appointment if I decide I want to try.
I don't know. The thing is, this woman is a stranger and I don't know if I trust her enough to let her play with my mind like that. I mean, why should I? If current T wanted to hypnotize me I'd probably be okay with it, but that's not really her style. Last night I started to think I'd like to go back to see T to at least talk things over. I sent an email asking for available appointment times last night, and she's yet to write me back. Normally she answers emails about scheduling quite quickly, or first thing in the morning (like around seven), so this of course is making me anxious, edgy, and sad, despite the things I keep trying to tell myself about rational expectations.
So, in short, here we go again. I'm back to being stressed by T (even if unreasonably so this time) and unsure of where I'm going with all of this.
*big sigh*