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It has taken a long time for the object constancy to develop for me as well. Part of the problem is that there was just SO MUCH negative in there. It's like overcoming a mountain of negative adding positive dirt one teaspoon at a time.

The only time I did two session on consecutive days was recently in between my vacation and T's vacation when things were rocky and we only had one more apt. scheduled before I went away. I had to cancel my second to last session because I got stuck at the dentist. It was really helpful.

My question to you would be: what about the 6 days in between session 2 and session 1? Maybe you could add a third session in there? Go Monday, Tuesday and Friday for instance? Doing consecutive sessions might solve one problem but then create another.

Hi SD,
I have the same issues. I see T. for 2 hours at the beginning of the week and then again a few days later. I too have daily contact and still have a hard time maintaining the connection. For me, this is the only thing that has helped, but I still struggle greatly.

The situation that you describe of back to back days would be good. For me I need to spread them out a bit so that I don't have a long gap of time between sessions.

Definitely those long gaps on the other side of the days will be bad for me... I was asking because apart from occasional times that sessions are on consecutive days - from memory - no one on here seems to deliberately schedule them and I was wondering if someone did do it on a regular basis - how it helped them.

I did jokingly say to T that her seeing me on the 4 days a week when she works would help the best! She would surely get sick of me then.

I found that today I felt more stable knowing i am there tomorrow (however T is away for 10 days after that and THAT IS AFFECTING badly. IN capital letters!!!!!!! So any positive feelings I am feeling right now are going to surely be ripped from me very soon.

see how tomorrow goes with T and whether I can actually talk when I get there, but it certainly gives us food for thought.

I haven't come across any literature on it either from my reading - ie the timing of the number of sessions.

SD

For years I also avoided back-to-back sessions because I wanted to avoid a large gap in-between. However, recently with my New-T I have been having some back-to-back on Mondays and Tuesdays for the first time. New-T was the one who suggested it, partly due to her unavailability later in the week, but also because she thought I could use the consecutive sessions to continue the work from the day before, with less time spent trying to re-connect and warm up to her again. So far, it has been a more positive experience than I would have guessed. I feel freer on my Monday session to discuss anything I want or anything deep, just knowing it will be less than 24 hours to go if I leave with that feeling of "unfinished business." However, admittedly I am not at a place right now with New-T where I seek contact daily, and I am trying to prevent myself from going there because separation anxiety was so painful with Old-T.

SD I attend five days per week in a row (and thank whoever it is that invented medicare and my T for being a registered GP). the continuity is excellent for helping develop object constancy and in my early days I didn't have sessions on consecutive days and it was harder to deal with