i've never been attracted to my therapists, and i imagine it would be a difficult thing to bring up... but if you can tolerate the feelings (of attraction, your t's boundaries, etc) and talk about them it could be really powerful work.

Oh gosh I can't imagine telling them. lol

Hi turtle
Well I have seen lots on the net about this and most say it can be talked about. Mind you that what folk say on the net, it remains to be seen if they do say anything in real life.
I do not think its a big deal to like some one a lot... and a lot more still, as long as its something you can handle.
If you have been in situation like this before with say some one you worked with and managed that you may be ok. If in the passed things went a bit mad for you, well then you need to think hard about what may happen in the weeks, months comming up.
ND

For me personally, I couldn't be with a T and have a sexual attraction. I think therapy is impossibly hard enough already without having another layer of problem!!!

I wouldn't be able to cope with it.

From the outset of my therapy I had/have strong feelings of sexual attraction / ET towards my T. It was something that I decided to bring up in sessions very early on purely to be honest with her about it. I suppose I was fortunate in that my T and I got on so well from day one that it wasn't that difficult to bring the subject up.

Somedays; you are right in that therapy is hard enough without added layers of problems, but sometimes the ET and the attachment IS the problem and it needs to be brought into the open. In my case personally therapy wouldn't have been as sucessful without the ET happening and being talked about in a safe place with strong boundaries and an understanding and caring T.

Cat; Yes it is a hugely powerful thing to be able to work through, but all I can say is don't underestimate the degree of pain one has to go through to get there. It HURTS. It hurts like hell, trust me.