Welcome Rebecca!...well, it is hard to help without some kind of examples...could you give us a few esamples of what has happened in sessions to worry you? It is truly a difficult thing to discern...so don't feel bad about having the difficulties, if you can help it...

BB

Hm, that is a really tough one. gosh. Have you told her about how uncomfortable her comments make you feel, yet?

BB

Hey Rebecca,
Like BB said, this is a tough one. I would definitely start but talking to your T about how uncomfortable the comments make you. Try and be as honest as possible(SCARY! ). Then based on her response you can decide if you want to start looking for a new T or not.
-Mac

Hmmm okay. I'm not sure how far you are going to get without talking about it. But I could be wrong!

well said draggers...can I just add something? I worry because the therapeutic relationship is supposed to be about you, and only you, getting the needs you can get met through therapy. Well, if your instincts are right, then that would bring her needs into the room, which is totally unfair to you. You could (as you know) end up in a position that you get badly used and hurt, a sort of re-enactment of past scenarios maybe, as anyone on this forum who has had boundary crossings by their T will tell you. I would hate to see you end up in a position like that, it would be ultimately really bad for you, though it might feel so good at first. Oh, just sending many hugs as you try to work all of this out, find your healing, and be well,

BB