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subconscious thoughts sabotaging "true" conclusions

H hopefulMember
I wonder if anyone else has ever had this realization or breakthrough.

I was cleaning yesterday and all these thoughts about T started rolling along...they were good ones finally. I have been on this thing that I thought she was trying to terminate..blah blah. Anyways, I've been realizing that she is seeing what is going on with me and responding in ways that are making me feel secure but also not being too accomodating. After I finished cleaning I sat down to my computer and all these sabotaging sub or unconscious thoughts were coming along to undo the "true" conclusions I had just had according to her responses of my stuff lately. For once I was aware of these thoughts and could separate that it was not me creating these thoughts but just automatic ones.

It feels like a breakthrough or something. I've heard about how your thoughts are not you but never grasped it before.

I don't know but maybe it will make sense to others.

Just sharing!

Hopeful
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L lieseMember
(((HOPEFUL))))

That totally makes sense to me and it does sound like progress. There is something they refer to in the literature involving doing exactly what you described and for the life of me, I can't remember what it's called. Oh, yeah, it's called mentalizing. So cool.

I lifted this from Wikipedia:

quote:
Attachment history partially determines the strength of mentalizing capacity of individuals. Securely-attached individuals tend to have had a mentalizing primary caregiver, and resultantly have more robust capacities to represent the states of their own and other people’s minds. Early childhood exposure to mentalization can serve to protect the individual from psychosocial adversity.[2] [9]


I definitely did not have a mentalizing primary caregiver. Did you?
H hopefulMember
Hey Liese,
I think probably my mom does that...she is quite normal but it didn't pass to me. I called and had an appt. with T just now...three weeks is enough. Scheduled to go next week but we'll see. I think I bore her to tears...she yawns a lot. I guess I should create more drama in my life or accuse her of a bunch of stuff LOL! Probably like the teacher on Charlie Brown...blah blah blah. I'm just not all that exciting...oh well what can I do?

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