That. Is. SO. True.

And painfully so.

Interestingly, I'd like to put out there, that sometimes, those of us that survive despite the lack of nurturing, are growing stronger thanks to the nurturing we've gotten, as adults, from our Ts and other caring people in our lives, that was quite lacking in development.

Very interesting food for thought, Liese. Thanks for posting!

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On a bad day I can be so jealous and resentful of these people, to the point of a lip-curling, sour-face...which is not very fair. Thing is, they don't even 'get it', they don't appreciate their advantage.

the world is a very unfair place

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they don't appreciate their advantage.

And they don't appreciate how some of us have struggled to achieve a somewhat normal life.

Thing I've noticed in life is that you cannot truly appreciate enough until you have not had enough. You cannot truly appreciate love until you have not had love. You cannot truly appreciate faith until you have walked in a place where faith is all you have. You cannot truly understand loss until you have lost in a significant way. A poor person cannot truly understand the loneliness of a rich person and a rich person cannot truly understand the happiness of a poor person.

True understanding is about walking in many different types of shoes, and even though it might feel like you are wearing a rather uncomfortable pair of shoes, and it all seems so unfair your blessing is in knowledge and understanding.

B2W

((MONTE)))

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Lets start a riot.

Just say the date. Piggybacking on what everyone said above, what scares me is those who "they were nurtured" don't understand that it IS in fact those who are nurtured who survive and thrive. Since a lot of the learning is done early and implicitly, they probably remain unaware that life feels differently to them and it scares me if they think that it really is the survival of the fittest.

People really are given different lots in life and I don't want anything to do with those who don't understand that. I'm making the best out of my life that I can and that's all any of us can do. We can't let what we think they think about us control how we feel about ourselves even though sometimes it's hard not to.

(((B2W)))

That was beautifully said.

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Thing I've noticed in life is that you cannot truly appreciate enough until you have not had enough.

Oh, I thought I was the only one who had to lose everything before I could appreciate anything.

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But they don't get it and view us as weak and lazy.

Monte, it is my very unprofessional opinion that fear keeps us down and we are NOT weak OR lazy.

i definitely agree with all of you, and frequently feel like an outsider or outcast because life doesn't come as easily for me as it presumably does for most others around me. and it is a very alienating thing, i think ... at least it is for me.

i'm going through some really difficult (to me ... maybe a more nurtured person wouldn't struggle nearly so much) with my FOO. i'm really feeling like an ugly duckling, fully exposed and made to feel as though i've done something wrong when i know in my heart i have not ... that i am, once again misunderstood and shoved into a corner where i am too frightened and ashamed to come to my own defense. some siblings were without question nurtured more than others, but we did, after all, grow up with the same parents and same environment, yet some absolutely have blossomed while a few others of us are more shrinking violets. and monte, ge, summer, it seems to me as well that the ones that have an easier time with life have a much more difficult grasp of being grateful. very intersting. and much more likely to snap at the violets when they try to open up. very, very interesting.

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you cannot truly appreciate enough until you have not had enough

that is so true, B2W.

nice thread, (((Leise)))