When I've given my T cards, I generally give them to her at the end of my appointment. I'll hand it to her and say "I know, we'll talk about it next time."

I've never given T a card for her birthday though, just for random, non-specific occasions, so I don't know what protocol is for actual 'event' dates.

If your topic is going to be serious, might that be an option that works?

I know when-ish my Ts birthdays are, I say I know your birthday is soon so happy birthday. I think a card is okay if that's what you want to do just be prepared to discuss it. My T shares her office with another T and I knew it wasn't her birth month but sitting out in the waiting room with me was this crazy happy birthday bag of all different colors for him so... other people do bigger things for birthdays sometimes

I would give it at the end.

OR give it at the beginning incase I feel mad as hell at him by the end.

LOL

I have done both. I usually hand the card over early and say " I am giving you it now cos I have no idea how I will feel about you by the end of the session so it is safer to give you it now, that way at least you get it."



When I am very nervous of giving something I wait until the end - becos all the way through I am still weighing up whether or not to give it and then I make a last minute decision which could swing either way.

Now that I know my T's birthday, cos I asked him, i want to celebrate it and if he is not careful I will festoon his building with balloons just for the fun of it.