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Hello everyone. It has been some time since I've posted because things have been hard. My ex-T left the area about 5 months ago now. We left on ok terms even though the termination was premature. I handled it well enough and I started seeing a new T right around the same time. The problem is I'm not sure this new T is right for me. She is a good therapist I think, but I don't care about sessions like I used to. I'm not sure if it's because I don't need T anymore, am scarred because of the termination, or if it's just that we are not a good match. I'm also not sure if any of that matters if the end result is me not committing to the therapy. I reckn that's important! I've visited with a different third therapist a handful of times. It seems like we have a much better time of it. I like how he responds to questions and concerns. He also uses touch which I think would be a nice change.

I feel guilty though. The second T helped me get through the termination and there's nothing wrong with her. It could just be me getting scared. I want to make a decision soon about whether to switch over to the third therapist and was hoping for help on how to choose. Anyone been through this?
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I wish I had some good advice for you but don't. I'm sorry things have been hard.

Can you tell 2nd T that you want to take a break for about a month so that you can just see T3 and see how it feels?

I'd probably feel guilty too leaving a T when they helped me get through something but at the end of the day, you have to do what's right for you.

Can you tell us more about T3? How long have you seen him for? What is his background? Is there a bit of infatuation going on?
Thanks for the comments Liese and poppet. T3 is an older guy (so no physical attraction as I'm young) that does psychodynamic therapy, which is the same as all the rest. There's not much difference between him and T2 but for feeling more comfortable with him. I think I feel more comfortable with him because he reminds me less of T1 - it's like a whole new world instead of being constantly reminded that my 'real' therapist is gone. We've only had 4 sessions though so it's also like a new relationship where everything is peachy keen. This is why I hesitate. I know there's probably attachment fears going on with T2 and it's hard to know what's best.

It's good to think though that T2 would be ok with this transition and I'm glad to hear that some are! It would certainly make things much easier even though I know I will still miss her and question my choice (if it comes to that). I'm done with both sessions for the week so I have some time to think about it. I think that if comfort is the standard though, T3 is more right. Maybe it will just be up to me and him to explore what happened with T2.

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