Hi. Randomly popped in to read and saw your poll, puppet. I chose "incredulous," but I needed an "all of the above" answer.

I voted... and I know my T really genuinely cares based on actions.... but I guess a tiny part of me would like to hear the words, too, even though I know actions speak way louder than words!

Hi Puppet,

I put "warm fuzzies" for how it would make me feel BUT that's very different from how I would have felt 2 years ago. It probably wouldn't have made a dent two years ago. He could have told me he cares about me till the cows come home and I think I would have just been numb.

NOw that I think about it, he didn't tell me he cared about me until it became an issue but at first the way he said it was very lame. It was, "I make eye contact with you and don't answer the phone."

Now as he's grown, he's told me that he is attached to me, he's proud of the work we've done together, etc.

SO, it took a lot for both T and I to get where we are now. LOL!

thanks for taking the poll anon & r2g!
you're right, an 'all of the above' would have been good.
i voted too, i wasnt sure if i was allowed on my own poll but it seemed to have worked.

puppet

I voted. I said "slightly skeptical" because that is how I felt the first couple times she said it and I even questioned her rather closely as to what she meant. I believe her now, though, I've mellowed.

Interesting, I said slightly skeptical because I have a hard time thinking that anyone can be nice to me and mean it!

thank you everyone for taking the poll!
its good to see the results... i'm glad most of your T's have either said or implied they care.
its interesting that not many people at all felt rage at hearing this (i know i am one of the 2!)

puppet

I'm the other one who felt rage when my T said he "deeply cared" about me. Do you know why you felt rage, puppet? I haven't fully explored my rage, but I know some of the reasons why I felt (and still feel) that way. (And just to confuse myself more, I know that I want him to care about me, it's just that I also feel furious with him for caring about me. Fun times.)

Puppet I'd have loved to do the poll, but I've only just started with a new P and the issue of caring hasn't really surfaced yet. I do think you've brought up an important issue though, I reckon if I stay with this new P (which actually seems quite likely at the moment!) I'll be going through the same doubts and questions and fears too. Maybe I'll come back and do the poll then lol.

LL

Well thats my first poll done on here and I think I got it right.
warm fuzzies are a stand out for me, I love warm fuzzies, mostly due to that fact I am easy to please.
ND

nannabee,
i'm sorry you felt rage too... i'm not sure if i fully know why either, its probably to do with the fact that i desperately need her to care about me (like my mother never did) and 'needing' anything and being helpless drives me up the wall! like you say, fun times
thank you for sharing!

Lampers,
i really do hope you'll get to come back later and do this poll

ND, nice to meet you and glad you got the warm fuzzies.

puppet