My T is also super patient with me. And I love that she's very forgiving and is able to see past all my crazy ways of dealing with things and just sees me. She is able to see that I'm not crazy even though I feel like it at times and just because something is happening that is out of my control, I don't have to let it affect me in a negative way. I swear, she has has some sort of crazy 6th sense about things...she may or may not have super powers

My T is...I can't use just one word, patient, consistent, empowering and so much more

Apart from her patience and her ability to make
me feel genuinely cared about; her best trait is
her expressiveness. Her face is an open book
to her feelings or thoughts about whatever I
say to her. No need to second guess what she
really thinks or feels; those endearing
expressions say it all

Long, long list.
Patience, honesty, love and caring no matter what.
An inquisitive and brilliant mind that often leads to quite stunning insights and interpretations.
Sense of humour.
Catches fainting patients

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..fast reflexes good for shoving tissues under your nose

Pops I'm serious he did catch me as I was fainting last year. The man is talented and also the most brilliant listener I've ever come across

No offence pops

Hmm, when I first read the question my initial thought was, "T has the most adorable accent in the world!" which actually seems kind of lame as a best trait for a T, but it's true that she has a lovely accent. Just the slightest southern drawl, but the elegant pretty kind, not an annoying twang at all. I love hearing her voice and listening to her talk.

It's more than the accent, though. T's voice is wonderfully expressive and can contain a lot of subtlety of nuance, so the things she says seem to have more range of meaning than a lot of people's words. She can make her voice very gentle and soothing when my anxiety is out of control and needs regulating-- very effective for calming, grounding. She's also fabulous at reading out loud. I have her read things to me a lot, actually. She's really nice about it.

In addition to that, I will give her props for having an intelligent and nimble mind and a great intuition for conversational rapport. She doesn't understand everything I try to convey to her, but pretty close. That's been a rarity in my experience.

honest, fearless, and consistently there. i miss T

My list would be very long, but if I had to pick one, it is his non-defensiveness. No matter what I bring to him, even if I'm upset with him, the focus stays on MY feelings and understanding myself. The focus never shifts to him. It's quite remarkable really and I sometimes have fantasies of him going out behind the building and jumping up and down and screaming to get it all out before returning and being serene for the next client.

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It's quite remarkable really and I sometimes have fantasies of him going out behind the building and jumping up and down and screaming to get it all out before returning and being serene for the next client.

OMG that is just too funny to imagine. If your T is doing that then I can't even imagine what mine is doing to maintain his sanity after one of our sessions.

Hugs
TN

PS... My T's best strengths are his intelligence, absolute consistency and sense of humor.

My list would be long, too. I can only narrow it down to two. No, three:

She's incredibly empathic in her facial expressions, her body language, and her words.

She's completely unflappable. But somehow she's still able to maintain her empathy even while presenting herself as unaffected by something that I may see as disgusting or whatnot.

Her patience. I have been worried that she thinks I'm disgusting since I have shared more with her, and she keeps saying she's not. I apologized for asking again, and she said that I could ask her every minute of the 50 minute session, and it'd be fine with her. Her answer kind of encompasses that quality in her.

It's heart warming to read all of the great Ts that many have. They are out there, even if we have to work a bit to find them.

Hugs to everyone.

My list would be long too but the biggest help to me has been his willingness to own up to his mistakes and his willingness to grow and change with me. That has been incredibly validating and healing for me.

Lots of things, but her memory is amazing. She recently forgot something trivial, but I think that was the first time ever in more than 2 years Makes me feel like she's so attuned and really listening and remembering. She's so good at being attuned. She's never had a bad day, never missed the mark majorly. She's never canceled one appointment. I feel like I'm so lucky to have her! She's not overly complimentary but she also does not make me feel foolish for what I say. I have felt so stuck lately but she doesn't make me feel like she's annoyed or wants me to just move on. Okay, I guess that's enough! Great thread Becca!!

After today, I can't help but add another one:

Her complete willingness to own up when she makes a mistake.