At my session yesterday I was talking about my father and T started to look very frustrated and annoyed about some things I was saying. She looked like she was about to say something but didn't.
"What, no comment?" I asked her teasingly.
She said that she had a comment that she might say if we were chatting at the grocery, but that it probably wasn't appropriate for the therapy room.
"Well, now I'm curious about what you were going go say."
"Your father is an idiot." She proceeded to elaborate on this theme for several sentences.
As usual when T criticizes my parents, I tuned out whatever cognitive content there was to her message and focused on the emotional meaning. . . T must like me or she wouldn't get annoyed at them, right?
But I also think she is not capable of understanding and appreciating them.
I think later she felt self conscious about what she said, because she told me, "That was a rather strong opinion I expressed about your father, wasn't it?"
I told her it was okay and that I wasn't surprised, really. I said she probably didn't have the issue of animus projection towards him like I did.
A few minutes later she told me, "I'm feeling bad about what I said about your dad."
"Oh, did I seem bothered by it?"
"No, you didn't, but I just wanted to own that with you."
I explained that I had actually been touched, that she wouldn't have a strong emotional reaction to him if she didn't care about me on some level.
She looked a bit flustered, I thought (why?), but agreed.
I guess I am just not sure what is up with T lately. These little flare ups of frustration. . . I don't think they are about me, but who can say. Maybe she is experiencing burn out, needs a vacation? Also, is that the sort of thing T tells people when chatting in the grocery? "Your father is an idiot"?
I am not blaming T. She did apologize, sort of. I suppose I am a little confused about what is going on and how to take things.
Thanks for reading, to whoever is.