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I talked with T1 today and she informed me that she spoke with T2 this morning and that T2 is pushing for me to be hospitalized for my ED.

I find this to be pretty surprising because T2 mentioned hospitalization yesterday and I asked her if she was considering having me hospitalized and she looked me square in the eyes and said, "No, not at all".

So, um...wtf? Was she lying? Or did she have a change of heart since yesterday? I just don't know what to think.

one thing is for certain though...I am terrified to go back to T2! I know that T1 will never have me hospitalized, so I'm feeling like I should terminate my therapy with T2 and just work with T1. But I also feel like I get so much out of my therapy with T2. So, i'm not really sure what to do.

I would just die if I end up being hospitalized.
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I think in this sort of situation, rather than let it fester, it is OK to email T2 and let her know you need clarification right away, because you are getting mixed messages. I do not really like T1 telling you what T2 is thinking/feeling/proposing and wouldn't like it vice-versa either. Sure, they need to be willing to share what they talked about, but saying what a conversation was about is different than giving hearsay, which can sometimes be misinterpreted. For example, T worked with me on stuff with H, and it turned out that *I* actually understood H's feelings better than T. T just confused the situation. Triangulation like that is not a good idea. So, I guess I see why T2 wants you to just work with one therapist, but I also see why you might not feel safe with her.

I don't want to ask any triggering questions, but are things serious enough right now that you would need to be hospitalized to keep you safe? I think you have said in the past that the behavior is very dangerous to your health in an immediate sort of way. ((((((LG))))))

I hope this all gets sorted out in a way that makes you feel safe with your Ts.
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Originally posted by deepfried:
LG I am so confused that so often it seems like your Ts will say one thing but then something else to one another? Was it T1 or T2 who claimed the other said you had BPD but didn't? Was it T1 claiming T2 said that also in that case?

I'm really sorry about this. Being hospitalized would be very scary. I glad I went the IOP route and I would hope your Ts could consider something like that before hospitalizing you. In what manner yesterday did T2 bring up hospitalization with you? I know she said you didn't need to go but why and how was the topic brought up in the first place?



It was T1 who said I didn't have BPD only to later say I do after talking with T2. But T2 said I didn't. So, I don't really understand that.

I think T1 is more honest with me about what they discuss and where I stand with them.

The hospitalization came up with T2 yesterday because I said that I feel that this ED is probably going to kill me before I can recover. Stupid of me to say that. It was in a moment of brutal honesty. T2 looked horrified when I said that. It is honestly the only time I've ever seen her look scared. As though I had just punched her in the gut. So that's when she mentioned hospitalization but then said she wasn't suggesting she was going to have me hospitalized. Yet then this morning she called T1 and brought it up with her and tried to get T1 on board with this idea. T1 was like, "I don't think LadyGrey is going to respond well to that idea". (I love her!) She said it wasn't a good idea for me.

I see T2 on Monday and I definitely plan to bring this up with her.
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Originally posted by yakusoku:
Glad for the clarification. Still hoping T1 and T2 can figure out a better way to not be sending you into these confusing loss-of-trust spirals. (((LG)))


To their credit, they are both working on that. In fact, today T2 was very good to ask me if I was aware they had spoken on Friday. I said that yes I did know that. She said, Did T1 tell you what we discussed? and I said yes. T2 asked, "how do you feel about it?" and I said that I was okay with it but had a question about the hospitalization comment. She and I talked about it for a few mins and then she asked if there was any other part of her conversation with T1 that upset me and I said no.

So I do feel like they are both trying hard to make me comfortable with the arrangement.

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