My adjunct T has been generally unavailable and our sessions have not been really effective for 6 weeks now.
I've been in an unusual amount of crisis and also healing and just feel like she's not a part of it at all. It feels like the relationship has seen it's time and I should let it drop. It feels useless and accessory.
I like her modality, I love her and am attached to her, I trust her in general... it's just we're already on a "break" right now because of her disconnect so... should I just take an actual break instead of wasting my time?
Has anyone else really disconnected from their T (for whatever reason) and actually had the relationship return to how it was? I have to rebuild it later anyway so what is the difference? My Ts will support whatever I decide.
I think it's hard to explain how I feel because I can't tell if the relationship is actually ineffective or I'm just being dismissive. My objectivity is off when my attachment defense system is engaged sometimes.
There isn't really anything to repair - T has said she's not as in tune as she'd like to be but it's not really something she can control.
I guess I don't know how to feel like this isn't permanent and how to put up with a crappy relationship for an indefinite amount of time. I'm trying to make it positive I just don't have the energy.