It's been a year and a half I've tried to get up the courage to discuss transference with my therapist. So much shame because my adult self is so capable and so dislikes weakness and dependency. It helped to remember it's my inner kid that has the dependency and fear. I found a way by asking what T believes about Transference.

I've read a lot about this subject by experts on-line and books I've ordered, and treatment techniques have such different approaches. Some don't even deal with Transference, and some of the old Freudians believe in treating it like it's a bad thing. So, I asked my T what she thinks and found that she believes the modern way...that it's good and OK and is a way to work through childhood abuses and fears.
I'm so relieved we talked a whole hour about it. My inner child has the fear of death if her need for the T becomes known. The child in me could never trust until I could tell her T believes it's OK to talk about it and feel it. Really hard to work with but now we can get started.
I'm so glad my T never let me get off the hook about inner child. Every session, she would gently ask questions but not be pushy. Now I know I'll get over all those problems I have with emotions by bringing this out in the open.
I'm glad that all of your have encouraged me and showed how all this works.