Thank you, CNC, for posting this article. I think it's very well-written and articulate, and really helpful to hear the perspective from the "other side of the room". Especially regarding the not-so-good endings I've had with two therapists, where there's part of me that REALLY wants to believe the endings were due to my being intrinsically defective, it helps to read that there may have been lots of other explanations for what took place. I don't think I can ever hear that too many times.

SG

Also clicking the "like" button, what a great site, thank you.

cnc, i like that. what i would really like, and they spoke of it, is sometimes, for the t to say what they really think.

i have never really experienced what would feel like a purely unguarded honest expression. and THAT would be so healing to me, or, perhaps, so educational, to me.

so, the honesty needs to be a two way street. yes, they are the professional, but, when i asked my t recently if i irritated her by saying something, she shut her notebook abruptly, stood up (it was end of session) and said, firmly...NO.

i still don't believe her.

thanks for the great article. i do think they have a hard job. and the abandonment fear, and inadequecy...those are probably what got them into psychology in the first place, so, unfortunately, they sometimes really have to wear a steel plate. but, limbic resonance does NOT cross through steel plates!!

jill