Thanks CD...I really appreciate it. I must say after the death of my first T, I saw two other psychologists, but the fit just wasn't right. Then I was referred to my 2nd T. I ended up being with him for 20 years. He was one of those therapists that went over and above what his job descritpion entailed. He told me 2 years in advance that he would be retiring. We planned on me "interviewing" new psychologists that I could go to. I'd go, interview them and report back to my T at the next session. He had tears in his eyes. I knew this was just as hard for him as it was for me. But, unfortunately, 4 months before his retirement, he had a stroke and never returned to the office. I was able to keep up with his rehabilitation, because his wife would allow me to call her for updates. Then 1 1/2 years later, out of the blue, he called me. We met at a restaurant for lunch and I was able to give him a gold pendant I got for him, to represent the work we did together. He said he'd keep in touch, but I haven't heard from him in over 2 years. I always send him a birthday card on his birthday (because we have the same birthday, just not the same year) and it came back to me Return to Sender. So, I sent a letter to an associate of his, hoping she would forward my letter to him. I dont know if he has moved, or he as passed away. So, I've been looking to receive some sort of news in the mail about him. We'll see. My 3rd T, the one we settled with, is an EMDR specialist with trauma, so I am involved with that treatment at the present time. Not an easy task. This T has a whole different approach to therapy. He doesn't let me get away with anything, he challenges my thoughts, he calls a spade a spade, etc. I think it is doing me some good, but there is a ways to go.
