Hello True North, I just read your first post and I am so sorry for the horrible way you were treated. You did not deserve that.
Many therapists would be shocked to read of your therapist's behaviour, not just cancelling your appointment by email - that is outrageous in itself - but the disregard for the depth of your pain and the lack of attention to your needs as a client in his care.
And now I'm reading posts that are not empathic to your feelings and I'm sorry this has happened. They are not in the spirit of this forum.
Take care,
Shrinklady
P.S. I will soon be posting my comment in regards to the posts that are not appropriate to the intentions of this forum.