Sorry I had to delete...still appreciate the responses.
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My thought is that you won't get a straight answer about the notes unless you press her on it more directly. I think she was trying to understand why you were asking, rather than being evasive per se, so it might be worth another try if you really want to see the notes. Maybe she'd rather just talk again over anything that you still want to discuss rather than rehashing what happened previously?
When I have had a 'lost session' I have emailed T and said that I can't remember what we discussed in the session and could she give me a brief list of what it was so it could jog my memory. When she has done this - it has helped a huge amount.
perhaps you could do it that way.
I thought your T's reply was a bit off - but I think BLT is right - is that she was trying to understand your reason for asking.
perhaps you could do it that way.
I thought your T's reply was a bit off - but I think BLT is right - is that she was trying to understand your reason for asking.
hopeful -
did you ask to see the notes or ask if she remembered and/or wrote it down? sometimes my t will flip back to another day in her notes if she's trying to bring something up, but I don't think she writes what she says. my Ts have amazing memories and recall all kinds of stuff my regular T will sometimes bring stuff up she's said that she thinks triggered me. It sounds like your t kind of got defensive or something
that's why I ask if you wanted to SEE the notes or not because Ts can be really possessive about those... but to just see if she remembers anything I don't see why she wouldn't answer?
One thing that concerned me about what you wrote was this:
It's okay to have conflict with your Ts - tell them stuff you don't like, push back on things, disagree with them and they should be remaining consistent. I've put my T through hell and back several times over and she's always reliably supportive, even if I just spent the session before antagonizing her. I hope you can talk to her again about this.
I do believe in most states you can get your notes from your T (they technically "belong" to your t) and a lot of Ts like to be able to go over them with you if they do give them to you. I've never asked for notes before.
I'm sorry I wrote such a big reply.
did you ask to see the notes or ask if she remembered and/or wrote it down? sometimes my t will flip back to another day in her notes if she's trying to bring something up, but I don't think she writes what she says. my Ts have amazing memories and recall all kinds of stuff my regular T will sometimes bring stuff up she's said that she thinks triggered me. It sounds like your t kind of got defensive or something
that's why I ask if you wanted to SEE the notes or not because Ts can be really possessive about those... but to just see if she remembers anything I don't see why she wouldn't answer? One thing that concerned me about what you wrote was this:
quote:I said it bugged me but I basically talked too much didn't want conflict as she has been supportive when I've called so I am grateful...
It's okay to have conflict with your Ts - tell them stuff you don't like, push back on things, disagree with them and they should be remaining consistent. I've put my T through hell and back several times over and she's always reliably supportive, even if I just spent the session before antagonizing her. I hope you can talk to her again about this.
I do believe in most states you can get your notes from your T (they technically "belong" to your t) and a lot of Ts like to be able to go over them with you if they do give them to you. I've never asked for notes before.
I'm sorry I wrote such a big reply.