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Heh. My therapy-esque songs are all depressing, I'm afraid. Frowner And by people like Richard Shindell - Songs like "You Stay Here", and "A Summer Wind, A Cotton Dress". WARNING: These songs make me cry. I don't cry. Like, ever. Ever? Ever. Not in therapy. Not at home. Not at movies. Although there doesn't seem to be a video of "Things That I Have Seen," which is the one that gets me.

And Dar Williams. Though her song, "What Do You Hear in These Sounds", is at least _way more_ upbeat than - well, than anything Shindell has written. Or heard. Smiler And it's actually about going to therapy!
Wynne,
I wasn't able to listen to as much as I would have liked yet, but wow, from what I heard, you just made ITunes some money. And that's all I need more music to make me cry!

Have I mentioned I'm a water spout. I cry like you wouldn't believe. I mean, at commercials sometimes. My kids watch me during emotional movies to see when it starts. In 2 years do you know how many sessions I've had that I HAVEN'T cried? Two, count them two. I'm waiting for my T to apply a tissue surcharge to my sessions. So I just hope you can live with yourself knowing you've added to that? Big Grin

Thanks, I love finding a new artist, and Richard Shindell sounds like he's right up my alley. I haven't listened to the Dar Williams yet, but I will.

AG
Applause to you AG for finally starting the therapy song thread. When you posted the title to this thread I was expecting to find a link to "Just Another Manic Monday" LOL.

Okay... so my therapy songs are as follows....I don't know how to do that neat trick of typing in the name of the song in the link though... sorry.

You Are My Anchor
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kyiqch4uYUg

Answer
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S-J2qcZLQQc

There You'll Be
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fmxILVVoRGA

Because You Loved Me
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fmxILVVoRGA

I'll Stand by You
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fmxILVVoRGA

I guess that's it for now. Anyone else have "therapy songs"? Please share.

True North
Okay, so it's a Tuesday afternoon. But while Dar Williams and Richard Shindell are for my good days, the band that's put out the song that reminds me of therapy on my bad days is definitely The National: "Secret Meeting". The recording isn't awesome, and the inputs need more balance, but this movie's the one with the clearest vocals, and it's the lyrics and the singer's voice that get me. The album recording is a lot...quieter, with more muted instrumentals.

I guess it's not a good sign that one of my favorite songs has the refrain:

"I think this place is full of spies
I think they're onto me
Didn't anybody, didn't anybody tell you
Didn't anybody tell you how to gracefully disappear in a room
I know you put in the hours to keep me in sunglasses, I know

And so and now I'm sorry I missed you
I had a secret meeting in the basement of my brain
It went the dull and wicked ordinary way
It went the dull and wicked ordinary way
And now I'm sorry I missed you
I had a secret meeting in the basement of my brain."

Smiler

....and my other fave of theirs, for similar days, is Apartment Story. Guess it's also not so awesome, with a solid refrain of

"We’ll stay inside til somebody finds us
do whatever the TV tells us
stay inside our rosy-minded fuzz for days
We’ll stay inside til somebody finds us
do whatever the TV tells us
stay inside our rosy-minded fuzz."

But I likes it.
Okay, so it's Wednesday afternoon now instead of Monday morning...and almost a year since anyone posted on this thread. Anyway I've been browsing through the older threads and just wanted to say, I LOVE the song and video for "What Do You Hear In These Sounds" and am learning to play it on my guitar. I haven't listened to all the other songs yet and I'm also going through another thread called Music lists. Anyway thanks everyone who has contributed to these threads. I love music and many times it's the only way to reach me.
I didn't know there was a song thread either, but my ringtone lately has been "Say" by John Mayer. Yes, the chorus is repetitive, but that is the message I need to hear in my mind every time I fear opening up in a session.

LYRICS
Take all of your wasted honor
Every little past frustration
Take all of your so-called problems,
Better put 'em in quotations

Say what you need to say [x8]

Walking like a one man army
Fighting with the shadows in your head
Living out the same old moment
Knowing you'd be better off instead,
If you could only . . .

Say what you need to say [x8]

Have no fear for giving in
Have no fear for giving over
You'd better know that in the end
Its better to say too much
Then never say what you need to say again

Even if your hands are shaking
And your faith is broken
Even as the eyes are closing
Do it with a heart wide open

Say what you need to say [x24]
quote:
Originally posted by echo:
I LOVE that Dar Williams song. "And when I talk about therapy, I know what people think. That it only makes you selfish and in love with your shrink." I actually almost quoted this to my P last session!

I finally got around to listening this Dar song too and I totally agree. I can't stop playing it over and over again. I've not heard of her before, but I think I'm a new fan.
The two songs that make me think about my psychiatrist every time I hear them are both by Lady Antebellum. One is "I Run To You" and it makes me think of him cause it talks about when bad things happen running to him. And the other one is "I Need You Now". That one describes it so well because I always promise not to call too much and in the song its says I know I said I wouldnt call but I couldnt help, and one part talks about it being 1am and drunk and calling just cause you need him now.

They are both on youtube and two of my favorite songs... of course I like any songs that me think of my P. And I listened to the Dar Williams song the other day and have been playing it over and over again since then. I LOVE IT!
Love the addition of new songs to the list. My current favorites are Halo by Beyonce which makes me think of my sessions ("remember those walls I built, well baby they're tumbling down, they didn't put up a fight, they didn't even make a sound. I swore I'd never let you in, but I never really had a doubt..."). The other is All I Need by Within Temptation when she pleads, "make my heart a better place". Both resonate deeply with me.

TN
Just discovered this song and I think it's beautiful so I wanted to share it.

Crystal Ball by Pink

Drinking wine and thinking bliss is on the other side of this
I just need a compass and a willing accomplice
All my doubts that fill my head are skidding up and down again
Up and down and round again, down and up and down again.

Oh, I've had my chances and I've taken them all.
Just to end up right back here on the floor.
To end up right back here on the floor.

Pennies in a well, a million dollars in the fountain of a hotel.
Fortune teller that says maybe you won't go to hell.
But I'm not scared at all...hmm hmm hmm hmm hmm...
Of the cracks in the crystal, the cracks in the crystal ball.

Sometimes you think everything is wrapped inside a diamond ring
Love just needs a witness and a little forgiveness
And a halo of patience and a less sporadic pace
And I'm learning to be brave in my beautiful mistakes.

Oh I've felt that fire and I've been burned
But I wouldn't trade the pain for what I've learned
I wouldn't trade the pain for what I've learned.

Pennies in a well, a million dollars in the fountain of a hotel.
Fortune teller that says maybe you won't go to hell.
But I'm not scared at all...hmm hmm hmm hmm hmm...
Of the cracks in the crystal, the cracks in the crystal ball.

Irony, irony, this hate and love, hate and love
What it does to me, what it's done to me.
What is done...done

Pennies in a well, a million dollars in the fountain of a hotel.
Broken mirrors and a black cat's cold stare,
Walk under ladders on my way to hell, I'll meet you there.

But I'm not scared at all, hmm...I'm not scared at all...
Of the cracks in the crystal, the cracks in the crystal ball.
This has been a great list to read through! wow... Thanks for starting this thread AG!

I'd add Broken by lifehouse. All except for the phrase "in your name I find meaning" fit with how I have felt sometimes about my T, or me therapy in general (and with "in Your name, I find meaning" included - that does describe my heart towards God in a very different way - but that's a tangent)

Broken - by Lifehouse

the broken clock is a comfort, it helps me sleep tonight
maybe it can stop tomorrow, from stealing all my time

and I am here still waiting, though I still have my doubts
I am damaged at best, like you've already figured out

I'm falling apart, I'm barely breathing
with a broken heart, that's still beating

in the pain, there is healing
in your name, I find meaning

So i'm holding on...I'm barely holding on to you

the broken locks were a warning, you got inside my head
I tried my best to be guarded, I'm an open book instead

and I still see your reflection, inside of my eyes
that are looking for purpose, they're still looking for life

I'm falling apart, I'm barely breathing
with a broken heart, that's still beating

In the pain, is there healing?
In your name, I find meaning

So i'm holding on (i'm still holding)...I'm barely holding on to you

I'm hanging on another day
just to see what you will throw my way
and I'm hanging on to the words you say
you said that I will be okay

broken lights on the freeway, left me here alone
I may have lost my way now, but I haven't forgotten my way home

I'm falling apart, I'm barely breathing
with a broken heart, that's still beating

in the pain, there is healing
in your name, I find meaning

so I'm holding on(I'm still holding)...I'm barely holding on to you
Hi JD! Big Grin Thanks for posting this. I like this song too...but I guess for not such a good reason...it makes me think of my ex-BF. So...thanks for explaining how you think of it, it gives me another spin to put on it instead.

I also like the song You and Me by Lifehouse...it used to come to mind in sessions sometimes with my former T, when I wished we could spend more time together...the time always went too fast. Frowner

It's you and me
And all of the people
With nothing to do
And nothing to lose
It's you and me
And all of the people
And I don't know why
I can't keep my eyes off of you

What day is this
And in what month
This clock never seemed so alive
Hi all, My favourite song is for a therapist i had when i was young from the age of 12 to 18 and on and off until i was 20. I have a lot of transference issues about her she was my mother figure and i miss her so much.

Because You Loved Me-Celine Dion

For all those times you stood by me
For all the truth that you made me see
For all the joy you brought to my life
For all the wrong that you made right
For every dream you made come true
For all the love i found in you
I'll be forever thankful baby
You're the one who held me up
Never let me fall
You're the one who saw me through through it all

You were my strength when i was weak
You were my voice when i couldn't speak
You were my eyes when i couldn't see
You saw the best there was in me
Lifted me up when i couldn't reach
You gave me faith 'coz you believed
I'm everything i am
Because you loved me

You gave me wings and made me fly
You touched my hand i could touch the sky
I lost my faith, you gave it back to me
You said no star was out of reach
You stood by me and i stood tall
I had your love i had it all
I'm grateful for each day you gave me
Maybe i don't know that much
But i know this much is true
I was blessed because i was loved by you

You were my strength when i was weak
You were my voice when i couldn't speak

You were my eyes when i couldn't see
You saw the best there was in me
Lifted me up when i couldn't reach
You gave me faith 'coz you believed
I'm everything i am
Because you loved me

You were always there for me
The tender wind that carried me
A light in the dark shining your love into my life
You've been my inspiration
Through the lies you were the truth
My world is a better place because of you

You were my strength when i was weak
You were my voice when i couldn't speak
You were my eyes when i couldn't see
You saw the best there was in me
Lifted me up when i couldn't reach
You gave me faith 'coz you believed
I'm everything i am
Because you loved me

You were my strength when i was weak
You were my voice when i couldn't speak
You were my eyes when i couldn't see
You saw the best there was in me
Lifted me up when i couldn't reach
You gave me faith 'coz you believed
I'm everything i am
Because you loved me

I'm everything i am
Because you loved me

Eve Frowner
Thanks AG.

I used to feel like that but so much has happened since then and it is so hard to have only a memory of those feelings, i am still trying to get them back just for myself, but she hurt me so much and i can no longer see the good in what she gave me, hopefully that will all come back at some point. I see her sometimes drive by but she does not adknowledge me. Yes i miss her so much or the person i thought she was.
Coming to this site and my therapy is helping me to find some answers which is all good.

Eve Razzer
Eve - oh wow, great song...
and I'm so sorry for the hurt and heartache with your T.

STRM - I love the lyrics by Sia - I'm going to have to look that song up! thanks for posting

Two songs have come to mind lately...

Too Proud by Blackthorn Project -
this song that really gets me sometimes. Especially the words of “Can you undo me…” It reminds me of my fight with all my own defenses and trying to trust another person in therapy.

chorus goes:

“I'm too proud to ask, too broke to eat, too weak to bow, too strong to bleed
Can you sing over me...words of comfort
Can you satisfy me...sweet honey
Can you break through me...strong hands
Can you undo me...enough to heal me?”


Everything by Hawk Nelson -
This describes my relationship w/ my old T, and some in how my relationship and understanding of my father shifted even while I was in therapy with my old T:

I walk the line
Leave it all behind
I've been waiting forever
Lets go back in time
When I could read your mind
Still I've been waiting

You told me once
You'd show up
But I fell for that
Before I fell to pieces
Then I woke up
To no one,
Just a picture of Jesus
And a house left in pieces

I tried to be perfect, tried to be honest
Tried to be everything that you ever wanted
I tried to be stronger, tried to be smarter
Tried to be everything but you

It took the seasons going by
To know its not my fault
….
There are a million songs that speak to me, but I want to share a couple by Marc Cohn.

One Safe Place
How many roads we've traveled
How Many dreams we've chased
Across sand and sky and gravel
Looking for one safe place

Will you make a smoother landing
When you break your fall from grace
Into the arms of understanding
Looking for one safe place

Life is trial by fire
And love's the sweetest taste
And I pray it lifts us higher
To one safe place

You can hear it here.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v...OCKk&feature=related


The other one is called
Let Me Be Your Witness

When your longest night is coming down
When pieces of you hit the ground
When every word they say about you is a lie
When they put your soul up for review
And they're set on turning every screw
Just call on me and I will testify

Let me be your witness

When no one sees and no one hears
Your secret heart
Your bitter tears
When it feels like your just sinking in the sand
When you can't remember who you are
And you wonder how you came this far
Just call me name and put me on the stand

Let me be your witness

To your mystery
To your ecstasy
To the tears you cry
I will testify
To your longest night
To how hard you fight
To your inner light
A higher place
Your grace
To where you are
And to who you've been
Jesus
Jezebel
To your heaven
To your hell

Let me be your witness

When your back's against the wall
When you've got no friends at all
Let me be your witness

You can watch it here - not great sound quality but a really great song
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TokppfbDY3U
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Hi all,

I'm a huge, huge music fan. I always have music somewhere with me. Anyway, I recently found a band called Boyce Avenue that did a cover of Michael Jackson's "Will You Be There," and I actually like it better than the original.

Will You Be There

Hold me
Like the river Jordan
And I will then say to thee
You are my friend

Carry me
Like you are my brother
Love me like a mother
Will you be there?

Weary
Tell me will you hold me
When wrong, will
You scold me
When lost will you find me?

But they told me
A man should be faithful
And walk when not able
And fight till the end
But I'm only human

Everyone's taking
Control of me
Seems that the world's
Got a role for me
I'm so confused
Will you show to me
You'll be there for me
And care enough to bear me
monte

quote:
I wish I could use it as a tool in counselling, but never would as it is not something my T shares and so it would feel awkward, embarrassing. He too is more at home with 'concrete ' things I think.


I felt the same, kept hearing all these songs that I realised explained how I was feeling much better than I ever could. One day when I was feeling in a very difficult place, I took in some music that spoke to me. I told T that the words expressed more than I ever could in my awkward easily frightened language of now, took a deep breath and played it.....that was the first time I really cried with her, so some button was pressed I guess. It felt very powerful and moving to hear the words being sung out in the room, I would definitely do it again, but then again, my T is open to trying anything to get me unstuck right now.

It might be worth you suggesting it monte, if it helps you express, then that's more important in the long run, than what your T might think. You might inspire him.... Smiler

starfish
Oh dear, hope I haven't made it worse Frowner

I really wasn't sure if it was the right thing to do either monte....and the song I played wasn't really my musical taste - just spoke loudly with the words.

My T is quite inventive - it's usually me that is resisting trying new things I think. So I think I even surprised myself with my boldness!! But monte you have those amazing drawings, oh my goodness who needs words when you have it all before you in pictures?! My limitation for drawing starts and stops with a stick man!!

starfish
Has anyone ever heard of Rachel Diggs?

Her song "Wanted" touches me so much. When I actually read the lyrics, I thought this made a perfect therapy song. "It might not be obvious
But you’re not alone" "You could tell me all you need. Its all right, You’re wanted"

*sigh*

http://listen.grooveshark.com/#/s/Wanted/2U3zVp

I can only find it on grooveshark, but I find all my best songs there and on Pandora. Her whole album is awesome.

Lyrics:

You don’t think you’re special
You don’t think you’re strong
But when the sky is falling
You feel like you belong

It might not be obvious
But you’re not alone
We’re going to let you wander
But never on your own

And I don’t know if I can help you
You could tell me all you need
Its all right, You’re wanted
Tonight it’s alright
You’re wanted

And your expectations
Are killing you slow
You’re getting what you wanted
But pain is all you know

You’ve got a new life now
There’s much that you see
But those that really know you
Are few and far between

And I don’t know if they will help you
Do you tell them all you need?
Its all right you’re wanted
Tonight it’s alright
You’re wanted

And you couldn’t be more wrong
When you say it won’t be long
Til the stars are gone
And you, you’ve got to see
When you bleed you’re never free
‘cause life’s not that easy.

But tonight its alright
You’re wanted
Tonight it’s alright
You’re wanted
Tonight it’s alright
You’re wanted
thing song just struck me.
reminds me of hope, of something of the process of healing, of the questions that ache...
not really sure why it struck me.

Someday by Rob Thomas

"You can go
You can start all over again
You can try to find a way to make another day go by
You can hide
Hold all your feelings inside
You can try to carry on when all you wanna do is cry

And maybe someday we’ll figure all this out
Try to put an end to all our doubt
Try to find a way to make things better now that
Maybe someday we’ll live our lives out loud
We’ll be better off somehow, someday

Now we wait
And try to find another mistake
If you throw it all away then maybe you can change your mind
You can run
And when everything is over and done
You can shine a little light on everything around you
Man it’s good to be someone

And maybe someday we’ll figure all this out
Try to put an end to all our doubt
Try to find a way to make things better now that
Maybe someday we’ll live our lives out loud
We’ll be better off somehow, someday

I don’t wanna wait
I just wanna know
I just wanna hear you tell me so
Give it to me straight
Tell it to me slow

‘Cuz maybe someday we’ll figure all this out
We’ll put an end to all our doubt
Try to find a way to just to feel better now
Maybe someday we’ll live our lives out loud
We’ll be better off somehow, someday

‘Cuz sometimes we don’t really notice
Just how good it can get
So maybe we should start all over
Start all over, again

‘Cuz sometimes we don’t really notice
Just how good it can get
So maybe we should start all over
Start all over, again"
Few more.

Rowing - by Patty Griffin

As I row row row
Going so slow slow slow
Just down below me is the old sea
Just down below me is the old sea

Nobody knows knows knows
So many things things things
So out of range
Sometimes so strange
Sometimes so sweet
Sometimes so lonely

The further I go
More letters from home never arrive
And I'm alone
All of the way
All of the way
Alone and alive

You just have to go go go
Where I don't know know know
This is the thing some said
Somebody told me a long time ago

Rowing Youtube Cover
(pretty good cover though)


Breathe in Breathe Out - By Matt Kearney

Breathe in breathe out
Tell me all of your doubt
And everybody bleeds this way
Just the same

Breathe in breathe out
Move on and break down
If everyone goes away
I will stay

We push and pull
And I fall down sometimes
And I'm not letting go
You hold the other line

'Cause there is a light
In your eyes
In your eyes

Hold on and hold tight
If I'm out of your sight
And everything keeps moving on moving on

Hold on hold tight
Make it through another night
And everyday
There comes a song with the dawn

Look left look right
To the moon in the night
And everything under the stars
Is in your arms

Breathe in Breathe Out


Ooh Child


True Colors
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There are a few songs that really make me think of my P...some of them are songs that I listened to back when he stopped seeing me back in 2003 and really connected with the way I was feeling at the time.

I WOULD HAVE LOVED YOU ANYWAY (Trisha Yearwood)

If I'd've known the way that this would end
If I'd've read the last page first
If I'd've had the strength to walk away
If I'd've known how this would hurt

(ChorusSmiler
I would've loved you anyway
I'd do it all the same
Not a second I would change
Not a touch that I would trade
Had I known my heart would break
I'd've loved you anyway
It's bittersweet to look back now
At memories withered on the vine
Just to hold you close to me
For a moment in time

(Repeat chorus)

(BridgeSmiler
And, even if I'd seen it coming
You'd still've seen me running
Straight into your arms
(Repeat chorus)

This one is what I want from my P and everything I wish I knew about him that I just cant.

I WANT TO KNOW YOU INSIDE OUT:

The biggest lie you ever told
Your deepest fear about growin' old
The loneliest night you ever spent
The angriest letter you never sent
The girl you swore you'd never leave
The one you kissed on New Year's Eve
The sweetest dream you had last night
Your darkest hour, your hardest fight

I wanna know you, like I know myself
I'm waiting for you, there ain't no one else
I wanna know you inside out

I wanna dig down deep, I wanna loose some sleep
I wanna scream and shout, I wanna know you inside out
I wanna take my time, I wanna know your mine
You know there ain't no doubt, I wanna know you inside out

The saddest song you ever heard
The most you said with just one word
The loneliest prayer you every prayed
The truest vow you ever made
What makes you laugh, what makes you cry
What makes you mad, what gets you by
Your highest high, your lowest low
These are the things I wanna know

I wanna dig down deep, I wanna loose some sleep
I wanna scream and shout, I wanna know you inside out
I wanna take my time, I wanna know your mine
You know there ain't no doubt, I wanna know you inside out

I wanna know your soul, I wanna lose control
Come on and let it out, I wanna know you inside out

I wanna dig down deep, I wanna loose some sleep
I wanna scream and shout, I wanna know you inside out
I wanna take my time, I wanna know your mine
You know there ain't no doubt, I wanna know you inside out

The biggest lie you ever told
Your deepest fear about growin' old
The loneliest night you ever spent

What makes you laugh, what makes you cry
And this one is one that makes me think of the time I saw my P right after he stopped seeing me and he asked how I was doing and I just said fine...but I wasnt....I used to cry when I heard this song during that time period. And now it reminds me of what I want to say when I see him in session but get to scared to so I just tell him nothing is going on or that I am fine.

WHAT I REALLY MEANT TO SAY BY CYNDI THOMPSON


It took me by surprise
When I saw you standin' there
Close enough to touch
Breathin' the same air
You asked me how I'd been
I guess that's when I smiled and said just fine
Oh, but baby I was lyin'

What I really meant to say
Is I'm dyin' here inside
And I miss you more each day
There's not a night I haven't cried
And baby, here's the truth
I'm still in love with you
(And, that's what I really meant to say)

And as you walked away
The echo of my words
Cut just like a knife
Cut so deep it hurt
I held back the tears
Held on to my pride and watched you go
I wonder if you'll ever know

What I really meant to say
Is I'm dyin' here inside
And I miss you more each day
There's not a night I haven't cried
And baby, here's the truth
I'm still in love with you
(And, that's what I really meant to say)

What I really meant to say
Is I'm really not that strong
No matter how I try
I'm still holdin' on
And here's the honest truth
I'm still in love with you
And, that's what I really meant to say

That's what I really meant to say
That's what I really meant to say
"In My Arms" by Plumb

your baby blues
so full of wonder
your curley qs
your contagious smile
and as i watch
you start to grow and
all I can do is hold you tight

knowing
clouds will rage and
storms will race in
but you will be safe
in my arms
rains will pour down
waves will crash around
but you will be safe
in my arms

story books are full of fairy tales
of kings and queens and the bluest skies
My heart is torn
just in knowing
you'll someday see
the truth from lies

when the
clouds will rage and
storms will race in
but you will be safe
in my arms
rains will pour down
waves will crash around
but you will be safe
in my arms

Castles they might crumble
dreams may not come true
but you are never all alone
because I will always
always love you

when the
clouds will rage and
storms will race in
but you will be safe
in my arms
rains will pour down
waves will crash around
but you will be safe
in my arms

in my arms

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