Agree Morgs. I am slowly warming back up to posting and contributing again. I have had a bad couple of months and I tend to withdraw.

Somedays.

Believe me (((Somedays))) I wasn't commenting about anyone who has been quiet - I'm usually the queen of quiet on the forum - we're very similar in many ways but I really was hoping that our 'visible' members might share with us all on the open forum more often than by PM!! It's just that PMs have created some problems in the last few days, that's all!!
xx to you all.

No worry Morgs.

Hope your countdown is bearable...

Morgs I'm glad you posted about this, because I'm sure you (and me) are not the only ones feeling the aftereffects of what just went down. I think it's natural though that everyone affected by it is probably a bit withdrawn at the moment and not feeling too safe to post - partly out of being unsettled by the acrimony and behind the scenes stuff that went on, partly out of not knowing what might be happening generally and who is involved and the general feel of the place having lost its supportive ethos temporarily.

Never fear, I'm sure posters will emerge from the woodwork given time (and inclination). Hasn't stopped me, as you can see

LL

I'm posting this partly as a co-moderator, and partly as a member - mostly just as a human being who knows a little of what happened "behind the scenes." I don't know all that happened, and I don't like that people feel left out of knowing what happened when they still feel affected by it. I understand how uncomfortable that feels. I personally am someone that feels better when things are more transparent and open. And yet, most of the problems happened on PM (private message), and thus private. At this point in time, those that rubbed each other the wrong way on the OF (open forums) and via PM, and triggered each other and some conflict developed -they probably sort of need to sort it out amoung themselves, and within themselves, to work out their own "stuff" that was stirred up. I can say that from what I do know, things are very much resolving. From those involved that I have communicated with, there is a lot of sadness that it affected the feeling of the forum overall, and was not a better contained or handled conflict that arose amoung members involved. I say this only knowing parts of what happened, but it seems like there is some processing and healing and re-grouping that is taking place. It naturally will take a little time for posting to feel safer for folks, and for people to re-group and move forward. But I think it is very much just a temporary thing. I don't know if this helps to hear. I know it's hard to see a generally safe place be rattled by things that are mostly unknown. But as someone who knows a part of what happened, I just want to say, it's being worked out and it's going to be ok... And that overall, this place is just the same. We are a community of people working on our "stuff" and it's a relatively safe place as always. I think some people are just a little spooked and jumpy right now, myself included, but things will settle back down in time.

Also, this seems to be a rough time of year, every year, for lots of people, so I think some of the hesitency to post by some is partly due to this just being a rough time of year.



~ jane

Well, I for one would just like to offer a giant forum hug.

JD, you did a great job of explaining what happened. thank you and well done. Your explanation is enough detail for me to feel informed and ok about it.
Somedays

I would love to see the forum come back to life, and expect that it will. I don't think recent altercations were things that we cannot recover from. Personally, though, I was a bit disturbed by the way things went down and find it difficult to simply resume regular posting as though nothing had happened. Since the conflict was made partially public, it may be more healing for the community if the resolution could be made partially and appropriately public as well, if possible.

Thank you for the report, JD; I am very glad to hear things are moving towards resolution.

Hugs to everyone.

Hi Everyone, I'm sorry I haven't said anything up to this point. I wasn't quite sure how public the issues had become. And now I see it definitely had had an impact on you. I can understand how upsetting this can be especially when you've come to rely on a safe forum feeling.

Please know that it is being worked out. I have been chatting with several members over the past two weeks to address the concerns. We're having Skype video calls so it is taking a little longer than email chat.

By the way, I have to say I'm very impressed with the folks I've met...big hearts!

Hopefully, the forum will once again feel safe for folks to post. I will continue to meet with members to address any outstanding concerns. There is a lot good will among the interested parties and I believe it will be settled soon.

Take care,

Shrinklady

Thank you Shrinklady - I'm so pleased you're involved and doing what only you can do in a situation like this. I also hope you might be in contact with the two having the problem - I worry for their safety.
Kind regards, Morgs

Jane, thanks for the update. You were as informative as you could be, I suspect, under the circumstances. Good job.

I missed everything that came down, so I haven't commented on anything, regarding this issue. I must say I am quite confused about it all, but I am glad that it is getting resolved.