Tas, you have every right to feel that way and I'd do the same.

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B2W

((((TAS)))))

That second appointment made all the difference in the world to me. I hope he sees that you really need it. It would be a shame to have to start all over with someone new. Can you at least go to one session and discuss it with him before you make up your mind to be done?

Thanks Born2Write

Liese...I don't know how many times a person should have to say or ask for a second appt...I have been asking every week for about 2 months now...and I get to a point where I stop asking because I gather he doesn't want me to come twice a week.

I don't know if I will be going this coming week or not...I am really beginning to believe that I am too screwed up for anyone to help me anyway.

Thank you for your reply T.

TAS - I think you are thinking on the right track if I am being honest. Between the response he gave you the other day about bringing it up in session and the response you just posted, I feel like he is not being helpful and is hurting you. He could just have easily said "Thank you for letting me know what you need. I want to be here for you and provide you what you need to get better. Let's talk about it in session." - Same message, totally different feel. I hate text anyway. It's so ambigous as there is no tone to be heard. I am probably not a good consult right now as I broke up with T today. But, I still feel I am of sane mind and I feel you are definatley on the right track. You shouldn't have to beg someone you are paying for what you need.

Tas, What is with your T??? Why would he react like this. I would love to know.

You did everything right. You were brave and you asked for a 2nd session. I agree with LIese, it does make the world of difference - it makes a huge difference for me.

I hope you can discuss it with your T and he can give a satisfactory reason.
Somedays

TAS,

I had trouble getting a second appointment out of my T. I don't even want to tell you the hell I went through to get it because it still hurts.

The real problem was that my T had issues with dependency and probably transference and he wasn't communicating that to me. He just made it hard for me to get that second appointment.

I finally was straight up with him and asked, "why are you making it so hard for me to have a 2nd appointment?" That opened up the conversation. He was acting on autopilot and hadn't even stopped to consider whether or not what he was doing was helping or hurting. Just doing what he learned: 2nd appointments were for emergencies and crisis.

I brought in some articles about dependency and between that and some other things, he changed his view. He himself is shocked that I've become more independent as a result of the 2nd appointment.

So, it might be worthwhile to confront this head on rather than leaving. Be upfront. I need this. I keep asking for it. You keep turning me down. What is going on?

Good luck. Let us know what happens.

I am sorry T doesn't hear you. It's difficult to stand up for yourself and you did great asking for something you need.

If he is unwilling (or unable) to help you in the way you need him to support you right now, I think it is absolutely not unreasonable to look for another T who will be there for you.

Is there a chance for you to directly confront him as on why he ignores / dismisses your request for a second weekly appointment?

Hey TAS,

Checking in...have you spoken to T? How are you feeling?