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Originally posted by lizzygirl:
I attended one session of a trauma group.
My husband asked me aftewards how I liked my man hating session. this comment has instilled fear in me. I know if I start to go he will retaliate in some way. So I notified the facilitator that I wouldn't be coming back.
I'm feeling like such a coward, and so controlled by my husband. But that what abusers do best is know exactly how to control others. Those two words," Man Hater " have just thrown me for a loop. Feeling down on myself for giving up because of my fears...again.
Oh lizzygirl....I am so sorry that your husband said that. Please know that is his insecurities. You know, you can always change your mind and go back. I have experienced for many years a verbally abusive relationship. My T told me to remember as I get healthier, my husband was certainly not going to be doing handstands in the front yard celebrating. Remember that as you continue on your path of healing and health, especially if your husband is doing nothing, he will continue to try and pull you back to where HE is comfortable. It is hard, but try to be strong and trust yourself. I would find that when my husband would start "trying to bait me" I would start to believe what he said, get scared of the consequences, and then the "healthier" me would pop out long enough to say, "wait a minute, this isn't right". The "healthier" me would then sometimes even stick around long enough for me to voice that and duck and run away
Sending hugs and thoughts your way....Hals
