I told T about a month ago that I recognized that there was transference going on in my relationship with her...that good old "mommy" thing. I'm sure T knew this was going on with me long ago but nothing was ever said other than she had asked me in my early therapy (a couple of years ago) who she reminded me of (my answer, "a mom"). In any event, I was scared to death to bring up my realization of the transference. I had this fear that T would terminate me over it. Instead, she was excited by the breakthrough and she let me know it was a good thing in the sense that we could work through it...and we have been focusing on my relationship with my mother.

At the end of my sessions, T and I hug. There have been a few occasions where we did not hug but, for the most part, we hug. Usually, T would hug me before we exited the room, before she opened the door.

I've noticed something different in the past few sessions since bringing up the transference. My T now seems to be rushing to door when we are done and will only hug me after we have exited the room and are out in the reception area. It's obvious she does not want to hug me in the room with the door closed. This is making me feel sort of awkward. I almost feel like telling her that she doesn't have to hug me if she doesn't want to, although I would miss the hugs. I feel as though I have done something wrong but I'm not sure what that might be other than perhaps the fact that the transference thing is out there now. I need some help trying to make sense of this because it's causing some hurt for me.