I've been in trauma/addictions therapy going on 6 yrs now. While I have already done some inner work, it's only just recently that I feel I can handle/deal with their anger.
Because I'm a very visual person and think a lot in "images", I envision my littlest one being in the driver's seat ALL THE TIME! My T asked one time what I thought of that and I immediately said it's not right but I'll be damned if I could get the steering wheel away from her! I've only recently come to realize she's been in the driver's seat all my life and I'm going to be 50 next Feb. It feels like she's calling all the shots emotions wise. While it was a rather big "aha" moment, it also felt funny to finally understand it. She is one very, very hurt and angry li'l one and I don't know how to handle her. This - coming from an almost 50-yr old, ta boot!
The inner child work I've been doing is drawing with my non-dominant hand, writing (child-like) with the same hand and arranging some Sandtray therapy figurines in my T's offices. Because the feelings that come to the surface are just so intense, I can only stand to do this work for very short periods of time, with weeks of "rest" in between. This type of work is the hardest I've done so far because it's so raw. It's at the source of everything else I'm experiencing emotion wise.
Whenever I do inner child work, I usually take a picture of what she has drawn and send it to my T so she knows what's going on. Or, I sometimes write a diary entry or email directly from li'l one to my T, who responds to her as her. I cannot tell you how comforting and validating that feels for both of us.
As I continue this very difficult phase of my therapy journey, I'm hoping to continue posting here. Thank you for being so patient and for reading.