Sorry for the bad timing for you - so many people have such a hard time over the Christmas New year break - so you can kinda understand how that is hard for everyone - but when your T takes off in early April too - I get how this feels like a double whammy for you.

My T has dumped the news of her overseas holiday on me a few days ago and I am still in shock. And not coping well.

When she is going away, I don't think I have any major milestones, issues, problems with when she is going. So it could be worse.

My T will contact me when she is away and she has a similar policy to your T. She too sees me on her holidays if she is still in town and able to do it. But can't exactly do that when she is jetting off into different timezones.

Thinking of you.
somedays

(((GREENEYES)))

Ugggghhhh, that really stinks that T won't be around at all. Will you be able to email or text him during this time? I know it feels personal that he's leaving you during this difficult time but I'm sure it's not and I'm sure he doesn't think your work is meaningless. I bet he has anxiety about it as well. When is he leaving?

(((GreenEyes))) I'm so sorry that your T is away at such a painful time for you. I hope you know everyone here will be here for you and keep reaching out while T is on break.

(((SD))) I'm sorry you're experiencing something similar. I haven't asked my T whether he is taking any time for Easter. I'm scared to find out.

Thanks everyone

SD I'm sorry to hear your T will be away and completely understand the difficult feelings it can provoke and how hard it is to manage. Do you know if you could Skype her when she's away?

Liese yes I can text and email but he gives very brief acknowledgments that he's read it and doesn't say much about the content. I know it's not personal but is hurtful and rubs salt in a nasty wound. Our last session is march 28.

Anon thanks for your support and yes I'm so relieved to know people her ill offer their warmth and understanding during the break.

My T this morning offered to see me Easter Monday morning and I said I'd felt guilty that I'd coerced him into doing something he didn't want to do. He pointed out he's never been one to appease me and he's offering the time because he wants to and can see how it will help.

I spent a lot of time thinking about this yesterday. I'm at the point where I'm developing a healthy hatred of my parents abusive and cruel care. On their death anniversary, I'm not grieving them, I'm grieving that I never had parents and never will and consequently I feel ashamed, worthless, ugly, unwanted and unlovable. This is made worse when surrogate parental figures (ie my T) isn't around to help remind me that I'm ok and loveable and accepted.

(((GREENEYES))))

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My T this morning offered to see me Easter Monday morning and I said I'd felt guilty that I'd coerced him into doing something he didn't want to do. He pointed out he's never been one to appease me and he's offering the time because he wants to and can see how it will help.

This is awesome. Did you take him up on his offer?

Hi Green Eyes.... I am sorry that you are facing such a long break and over the Easter season which is so difficult for you. I think if your T offered to see you Easter Monday you should take him up on it because he does not sound like someone who would offer and not mean it. I think your T has good boundaries and he only offers what he is himself comfortable with and able to fulfill.

My T has reassured me and convinced me that if he offers something he really means it and can really do it. And so, now I feel less guilt in accepting what he offers me.

I think it would be a good idea to use the time before he leaves to work on some coping strategies and ideas to see you through the break. The paper chain with notes inside that poppet mentioned it a really good idea because you not only "hear" from him each day that you open a link, but you also see the chain get smaller and smaller and T getting closer and closer to returning.

And, of course, you also have all of us here to support you.

Hugs
TN

((Liese)) ((TN)) ((poppet))

Liese I probably will take him up.
Just him offering it and hence me having more control and choice was soooo helpful

Pops the notes sound like a lovely and helpful idea but I'm 99% sure T wouldn't do it.

TN thanks, I probably will see him on that Monday. Am so grateful to have the support of this terrific community and fom DH too.

One of the reasons long breaks scare me is during a 3.5 week one last year my anorexia got out of control and its only starting to recover 9 months down the track.

It will be interesting to see what the parental death anniversaries at like this year given my recent development of anger and hatred towards both mum and dad. I suspect any grief will relate to the losses, abuse and cruelty I suffered at their hands. Which I cn only know very gradually.

I had a relly weird experience this morning where I felt like I was losing a fundamental part of myself and I had no control over it and it generated enormous fear and anxiety. Almost called T but I seemed to have rebalanced myself.

Hi,
I say also take him up on the appt he offered.

My T knows I am very anxious about the 5 week break she intends to take after she gives birth. She says she understands, but she need to take care of herself and she feels she will need the rest.but she has said we can have e-mail contact during this time and if she feels good enough we can meet once or she may come back earlier.

I will assume that she is happy with what she is offering to do and would not do it otherwise!

((Starry))

I would find the prospect of a 5 week break extremely daunting. And no doubt she will need the rest. I went back to work when my son was 6 months old ad I would not have wanted to start any earlier.

(((Greeneyes)))

I hate it when Ts take breaks!! How dare they!

(((GreenEyes))) Hope you're doing ok.