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Thought I would say what happened regarding this situation. From my post "responding to being pushed in therapy'

I wrote a note on my homework stating that I thought a) the homework sucked... lol.. and b) that it didn't escape my attention that after you said you wouldn't push me, that this homework accomplished just that fact and I wasn't quite sure how I felt about it all just yet"....

At first, when I gave her my HW, I wasn't sure I wanted her to read that note because I just have such a difficult time with that sort of confrotation but in the end, I asked her to read it but please not out loud.. cause she does that with everything and I really don't like that!! Anyone else like that?? Not like your stuff read out loud? lol..

Anyways, she was really glad I wrote the note and said something because she said that she was truly sorry and said that was not the intnetion of the homework. That she stated it wrong and can see how I understood it that way and that she wouldn't ever be the sneaky type to say she wouldn't push me and than do so in another way. And so on...

so I'm really relieved... I do believe her. I told her I didnt understand why and was really bothered by it all week.... lol... and wasn't sure how to respond to it...

So yeh.. miscommunications on sensitive discussions I suppose? lol.
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Hi BFW:

I am so glad that you were able to speak (use your voice in written words) to your therapist.....miscommunications can be a very sensitive issue....have had a few with my own therapist as well.....we have been lucky enough to work through them....

I don't like being pushed either....I feel that when I am ready I will share....trust is a hugh issue for me....also the notion of "sense of entitlement"...I often feel unworthy of sharing and at the same time I am not so sure that I trust my therapist with the information that I would share....kind of a "push/pull".....

Again, yeah for you for using your VOICE....!!!!! Many of us wounded souls have been silenced way too long!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

S
I think using ones voice in therapy plays different roles....

one-- is to read aloud with your therapist is forcing us to stay present with whatever we might be avoiding....

two- even if they read it outloud.. same thing... it's greater exposure... it also can serve to be a way to help the therapist think and see how we react and are processing different types of information

three- yes, it also gives us a voice that has likely been silenced and here is a safe space for us to learn to use it.... maybe.. LOL..

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