So I had my session with T today. I gave her my letter (which I have attached here so everyone knows the "backstory". I posted it a few days ago but took it down). The session today went very well. We discussed the content of the letter and T acknowledged my feelings and concerns and has agreed that validation is missing and that she will be more cognizant of offering more validating responses. I told her how her non-responsiveness and lack of warmth (which can be demonstrated through validation of my feelings) actually keep the transference fire burning.

It felt really good to ask for what I need and to have T acknowledge that it is a legitimate need and that she will work on addressing it with me. It made me feel like I am worth making some changes for to keep the relationship intact and more healthy. At least she is willing to try. I told her how I thought the bonding and attachment to her is a good thing and that it hurts me when I feel like she is dismissive or unwelcoming of the desire to bond and attach.

She verbalized that she does care about me and my feelings and experiences and OMG she actually said the words..... "I love you". In my heart. In the most honest, purest part of my heart I love her too and I am glad she sees me as someone worth tweaking her responses to.