Hi Stuck -
I have actually recently used crisis lines in the last two weeks. My T was on vacation last week, and our last meeting prior to her vacation was not a good one. I was missing her, and having a very difficult time. I ended up calling twice, and I have to say I was not happy with the experience. Each time I called, it was in the middle of the night, I was distressed and in tears. The first time, I didn't care for the woman's voice, so I know that was my own issue, but the second time I called, a few days later, during the conversation the woman asked me to "hold on for a minute", proceeded to put me on hold, and when she came back said "what were we talking about?". My crisis may not have been as bad as what someone may have been going through, but I felt as if I was dismissed. I was crying at the time, so I felt that my needs were not being met.
That is just my personal account and opinion of the situation.
Hopefully you will have a better experience if you need to use one of these lines.

GG

Stuck,

I have used a crisis line once and I didn't find it helpful so I haven't called one again, but I don't want to discourage you from calling one if you need to. I think it can probably be a good resource if you are feeling unsafe and at risk for harming oneself.

Thanks LadyGrey and Gargyrle,

Not to worry, I am not going to harm myself or anybody else. I may embaras myself or do something foolish, like call my former T. And if I feel the need to do that, I will call this line instead.

-Stuck

Hi Stuck,

I'm sorry it has been so difficult for you lately. I know the feeling of wanting that contact with an ex-T and how hard it is to be unable to connect with them because it's "forbidden". It can really make you feel crazy.

I would recommend this Crisis Line:

315-251-0600

It's in the U.S. and is not toll free.

I hope things get easier for you.

TN

Hey Stuck,

Am wondering if it would be helpful to give yourself permission to write a letter to your old T when you are wanting to connect with her? it might help to get some of that stuff out...and then later, you can burn it, delete it, or...perhaps send it if you still want to, after thinking about it for 48 hours or so?

It's a good idea LadyGrey and I have done that from time to time. I just don't send it. I have not it lately though.

Thanks.

Hi Stuck...I am sorry to hear that things are still so rough. I don't know about a crisis line, I've never used one, but I just wanted to chime in with my support. I think writing the letter to your oldT is a great idea. You could even post it here unless that would be too weird for you.

I hope some of the pain alleviates soon. I'm glad you have a T who is helping somewhat.

sending hugs,

BB

I have called the crisis hotline on several occasions, most recently last April. It was a very bad time for me- issues with abandonment, abuse, transference. I tried all day to reach my T and at 9 PM I called the crisis line. It helped me a lot. I had turned his lack of response into more abandonment- not being important enough, etc. The crisis line helped me look at the reality. The guy even said, maybe his kid's are sick, etc. My T ended up texting me at midnight. Calling a crisis line sure won't hurt especially if it's all you have.