Hi AG
You just have a good and relaxing time - you've earned it Haven't seen your SI thread as I've only just got back on line - I love computers except when they spit the dummy
Morgs

AG, you have a brilliant vacation - hope you guys enjoy it in the best possible ways. You've truly earned this one.

love,
Jones

Safe trip! Take care, and not worry about your new thread, its all good! Enjoy

Hi AG,

Hope you have a wonderful time! Thanks for letting us know.

Be safe- be well- have a super time!
Mayo

Have a happy, restful trip

starfish

Have a great time AG. You deserve it

Butterfly

Have fun, AG!!! Take care. ~D.

Have a wonderful and relaxing time!

BB

I hope you have a super awesome time on your vacation - get some rest!!

Hope you have a fun, safe and relaxing trip!

Thank you all so much!! I am happy to say we have safely arrived, had a lovely drive down and are relaxing with absolutely nothing to do. Heaven! I really appreciate all your well wishing and am happy to tell you it's been very effective.

AG

Glad you arrived safely and for letting us know. Have fun and enjoy yourself. You deserve it.
BTW, do you have a backup T. to handle your cases while you are away? Just kidding

PG

HI AG,

Just playing a little round of where in the world is carmen sandiego? Being a NY girl myself and knowing down means south, that means you are someplace warm? Hope you have a nice relaxing time and can enjoy some beautiful sun!

Hilton Head SC

It's a bit on the brisk side (low 40s) but it beats the 15" of snow that Syracuse just got. Our daughter had a snow day!

That sure does beat 15" of snow!!! I just saw flurries outside my window this morning but nothing stuck!!! I'm not ready. I'd go back to the 50's in a heartbeat! Do you have any family there or is it a strictly R & R type of vacation?

We're members of the Disney Vacation Club and there's a resort here on Hilton Head, so we have a one-bedroom place with a full kitchen. It's extremely relaxing with a very low key feel and lots of birdlife (it's right on the inter-coastal waterway) and you can go 1 mile across the island to their beach house and take walks on the beach. Really good shells here. We're deliberately taking a do nothing/no plans/read books kind of vacation. My husband is actually down for his first nap now. I'm indulging my computer addiction and then I have a new book by one of my favorite authors awaiting me.

HI Ag,

That sounds delightful!!! I just went away for the weekend last weekend with my girlfriend to a hotel/spa. It was really really indulgent but I needed to just chill and do NOTHING! I fell asleep in front of the fire, read a book, soaked in the hottub, went to a yoga class, got two massages. IT helped sooo much. I need to do something like that once a month though a little less expensive. So enoy!

HI AG,

I see you are posting and wondering how you are enjoying your vacation?

Also had a question for you. In the therapeutic scheme of things, does my attachment to T have to be secure before we start trauma work? Also, how long will it take for attachment to become secure? Getting very frustrated with process!!!

AG,

So good to see you are enjoying your holiday, it sounds an amazing place. Just to have some time to do nothing and not have to plan every detail of the day is a real treat for me. Enjoy!!

Liese, that's a really difficult question and I wonder if the answer has to do with trust more than attachment? For me it took a couple of years (I know!!) before I was able to trust my T with my trauma stuff, so tried to deny it up til then. Of course I know now, that she would have been just as trustworthy right at the start, but in a way she had to gain my trust before I could start to speak even the smallest detail. I had been let down so many times as a child and young adult, I had to be really sure it didn't happen again. But I can really understand your frustration if you know that's what you want and need to do, what's your T's reaction when you try to talk?

starfish

Hi starfish,

I do kind of hint at the trauma stuff but probably in a really really indirect way, so indirect that a normal person wouldn't know what I was getting at. But he's my T, so I think he knows but he ignores me because he's trying to get me to be direct. Maybe the answer is that when I'm really ready to talk about it, I will be able to bring it up myself? Thanks for answering!

HI Starfish,

Just not sure what trust is, exactly? I diagnosed myself with trust-in-self issues, not trust-in-other issues.

Liese

Hmmm, that must make it really hard, is there an element of self-doubt that goes hand in hand with that too? What would it take to trust in yourself? I mostly really trust myself(that's not the same as not beating myself up over things I do though! lol), but take time to trust others with my stuff in case they let me down again. I guess attachment can only happen after that...IDK, I suppose we're all different, shaped by our experiences maybe.

starfish