My counsellor is away for 2 weeks and has left me with a little homework. "Why do I need my opinions and feelings validated?". It came about because I was telling him something my husband said to our daughter. I thought it was inappropriate but did not say anything, my counsellor asked me why and I said that I would probably be wrong or told I was over reacting. He asked my why I thought all my opinions were wrong and I said it just is, that is the way it has always been. It is true I cannot give my opinion without asking someone first if it seems ok. I am presuming it all has to do with low self worth, and feeling like a non event. I told my counsellor if I was a colour I would be beige, he tells me I am red!! Does anyone else have this validation problem, and how to start to overcome it.

Also I notice that there is a link to an article on another thread about eye contact. I have not made eye contact with my counsellor since the day I walked the room. How do you go about starting without freaking out!