Do you find the volume/pace of someones normal speaking voice potentially triggering?
My H was talking to me about something he was very irritated with at work. He normally has a somewhat loud, deep voice. But today he was talking faster and had a noticably more angry tone, and even though it wasn't directed toward me, I had a reaction.
I noticed my breathing got really rapid and all my muscles went tense, and I just wanted to be ANYWHERE else right then. I felt so threatened, yet I was not in a threatening situation, he was just talking about his day.
I noticed that T's seem to deliberately speak in a low, soothing tone, and I recall sessions in the past of straining to hear. I'm guessing this could be the reason they try to do that?
I felt like a jerk to react this way b/c H did nothing wrong, but I so wanted to tell him to just whisper the rest of his tirade. Anyone else sensitive to this?
I understand how it creates shameful feelings, but I hope you can be gentle with yourself in not feeling too poorly toward yourself. I think the more we can tell those close to us what is going on inside it takes some pressure off everyone's reactions. It's hard stuff... thank you for support