Not sure why I am sharing this except that I am trying to get out of my shell and participate a bit more.
Today H and I went to court to ask the judge to dismiss the protective order I requested against him in May 2012. H has been pressing me to do it because he wants his guns back so he can go hunting with our son this fall. H moved back in the house 7 months ago and there has been no more violence, so I didn't feel like I had a reason to insist on keeping the protective order in place.
But the judge disagreed. He said the law intended protective orders to last at least 2 years and it was premature to end it now. He did modify it, but H is still banned from possession of his guns, which he was not happy about.
The thing is, I am secretly glad that the judge ruled the way he did. I am glad that a MAN is taking my security seriously. It helps me feel justified in my legal actions. But I did not tell H that, and I feel a bit guilty about it because H truly has been demonstrating good behavior since he moved back in.
I guess I don't really have a question. I just wanted to share my day with you here.
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It is good to be reminded that I don't need to take responsibility or feel guilt for the consequences of H's actions. This kind of thinking makes me way too vulnerable to manipulation.
