hi kansas, nice to meet you! i'm pretty new at this myself but from what i read the bottom line is "talk to your T". if you think you need a "talking to" then you probably do. i remember witnessing my next door neighbor scolding his teenage daughter. big time. i thought "wow, he sure is being tough on her". but my own father never did that kind of thing with me and i think that if he WOULD have it would have spared me a lot of pain and issues now. i would have seen that my dear old dad did indeed give a shit about ... ME! maybe that's what you're looking for in you T now? personally i think that's ok ... let us know how it goes!