Maclove ~
ah, so you are the on who has been reading my journal! lol :P
oh, I am so sorry about your boyfriend.
The lack of response... it's hostile in a way. There's no way to respond, to know, to resolve, to even work through the leaving of the person better - and oh... it screws me up in trusting new people and then I act untrusting and then they are more likely to leave! (not saying this is happening with you - just a random thought I had as I typed.)
It's so hard. Because even when I don't do stuff that make people leave, they still do. Sometimes I think it's just life - and to some degree it is... but then I see they stay around others... or others seem to be able to have relationships much longer than I end up being able to... and I don't get it.
oh Maclove, I know it hurts like hell. (btw, I don't think either us are cursed! although I too sometimes feel that way. even like a leeper.)
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I really want to say to you “She/he didn’t deserve your friendship.” But that’s something my T would try and say to me and it PISSES ME OFF.
yeah, I can relate. In some ways, I think well, they are just a crummy friend. so apparently all my friends are crummy? I don't think i am THAT bad at picking friends... I have had some really great people leave me life... and some really crummy people too... argh. I just want some same-ness sometimes. And people that might be around tomorrow. Or at least warn me a little before they ditch me!
So sorry you are struggling with this too.
and thank you too for sharing. Your post did help me a lot. It helped me feel a bit less alone and less like a freak... which I really needed right now. thank you.
smiley - oh my heart goes out to you about your friend. Those unspoken breakdowns in the close-ness of relationships are so painful. And losing such a good friend... I'm sorry she didn't respond well to finding out you were gay. And oh, I have been there - well, not about that particular subject, but other things people have found out about me - and when someone says everything is fine, and things haven't changed when um, everything has changed already - and painfully so. The denial of that reality is almost just as bad as the actual change and loss of close relationship and friendship.
I try to not get so attached as well. It's tough. I end up numb and just not real or attached anyhow. I think I'm trying to figure out how to attach... well, almost like to more people and places, so that when one person leaves, it's not so huge... but it still is... argh... so much for that plan...
hang in there smiley - and thanks so much for your encouraging words.
preppie girl - I try to leave, or sometimes push away people - before they leave too. oh, I am so ready to run...
yeah, you are certainly not alone in that.
Thanks again for the feedback... it does help so much to know I am not alone in this... it is an especially good reminder tonight. thank you.