Talk to someone at the clinic and ask if something can be worked out for you. Maybe talk to your T and get T's opinion of who to speak to about this.

If hubby knew, would you be able to afford it? Why do you hide this from him?

My T constantly raises her rates, without apology and about every 6 months (or whenever she decides) and doesn't negotiate. That's not the norm... Many Ts and places are not hard and fast like that. I'd suggest talking to them as well. If not... Finding another T may help - someone who can negotiate. It's very hard to do when there is attachment there.

I don`t ever want Hubby to know I have an ED- I know I should tell him but I just can`t. It would really hurt our relationship and I`d find myself locked up in a hospital somewhere.

's BrokenessisMe

I'm not sure what to do about the increase in fees but I will say that I do feel freeer now that DH knows about my ED. I had told him about it back when we were dating 20+years ago. (maybe more just mentioned it) It has not really been active in all this time until this past year. So much trauma going on in my life has brought back my old coping mechanisms.

T really really pushed me to tell him about it. I brought him to a therapy session and she helped me to get the words out. Things are not perfect but having the elephant out in the open is better than living in so much shame and secrecy.

Thinking of you

Jillann

When I first started seeing my T she was a grad student so her rates were a steal; then she graduated and because she got her degree her rates shot up. I too saw her twice a week and was fixing to have to cut back as well; however, she said she didn't feel comfortable with only once a week until my ED was more under control, so she and my mom came to a deal in which we would pay her original rate once a week and her new rate the other day. Apparently she did that with a lot of her cllients as a sort of grandfather clause type thing. So maybe discuss possible options with your T??

If not, I really do think you should let your husband know about your ED

My T luckily is in my insurance plan and I only have to pay a co-pay for him. But he said if I ever lost my insurance that he would work something out with me if I had financial problems. He said he has never let a patient leave because of paying fees. He has also not raised his fee to me since I know him (almost 4 years). I think he could definitely charge more because he is such a fabulous T and is always booked up but I don't think money is his major motivating factor for doing this work. I am sorry for those with inflexible T's on this issue. I do think there are a lot of factors involved in determining how fees are applied to clients. My T said if I couldn't pay him but was at the casino every week we would be having a very different conversation! LOL

Broken... if you can only go once a week then maybe you can have mid-week contact with T via email or phone to get you through the week. Or maybe you can find other support for midweek to help you. I don't have an ED so I'm not really aware of how it's controlled in therapy so this may not be an option for you. I wish you the best. Keep coming here to post. I think the support here can also help you.

TN

Thanks, everyone. I really appreciate your suggestions.