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"When I stopped to digest your thought on dissolving I realized I may be afraid of 'disappearing', that addressing things may obliterate my existence, and to do that sort of melting would mean to be very vulnerable..."Catalyst



This is the core terror, and where the rage sits. The child fears a none existence (death) if the rage is expressed. If we do express it towards our primary care giver at this infantile level and make her/him disappear, we fear a none existence without them. It is a separation that all tots normally go through, unless one has been emotionally deprived of love in infancy. It must be done then in therapy. In the end, the only thing that disappears is our fear and rage.

During separation we become more aware of the child within, and her emotional needs. She then grows emotionally when her needs are met by adult us. Therapy has taught us the importance of giving to the child. We nurture her.

When separation is complete, and the child has grown emotionally, we then have no need for our T's. The child has evolved into an emotionally mature adult. She is free of negative emotions.





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