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Who's uncomfortable?

M masimoMember
I met with my therapist yesterday and was relating to him the way my husband approaches
sex with me. As he has been abusive/certain ways of approaching me just aren't going to get him anywhere. I was recounting what my husband had done that morning, claiming he should have known better and was acting like a child. My therapist said, "Well, we really havent discussed your sexuality, and I'm not sure you would feel comfortable doing so"

Hummm? I wonder if he feels uncomfortable?
I would no doubt get embarrassed, but would discuss some things. Wondering why he should claim its off limits because it could bother me?
After all, I'm seeing him to deal with my marital difficulty. Any thoughts?
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starfishstarfishMember
LG

I too would agree with my learned friends above!! Smiler Smiler

I have learned very slowly that I have to be VERY specific about exactly what I want to talk about and in what depth. I used to give vague statements about how something was difficult for me and then get frustrated that my T never took it further Mad but now I realise that more of it has to come from me. She has to know I am willing and ready to go to that place and then will walk with me 100%.

LG maybe your T needs that confirmation, sex can be quite a tricky subject for many reasons and he might not want to launch in too deep too quickly. I hope you manage to take this further next session as it feels so important for you.

starfish

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