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why is it so hard to do the things you know are right for you? why do i find opportunities for my self to improve, but them fight them? i find AA and love the people in AA, but i fight it. i find Women For Sobriety, and get excited for it, but then never make the necessary calls. Why?

i isolate when i know i shouldn't ... why?

why the self-defeating behaviour? why
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Hi CD,

For me the answer is always (ALWAYS) fear.

Fear of other people wanting to get too close? Fear of being vulnerable and seen...and then abandoned? Fear of not knowing what life would be like if I changed for the better?

Thanks, by the way, for your nice comment on the "Mute" thread. I've read your comments for a while and have thought we have may some "fear of therapy" in common Smiler I hope that's OK to say.

You're not isolated here, CD. Stay awhile...

RabbitEars
Hi CD
Fear is a huge one for me mainly centered around possibilities and change having just come onto my radar (kind of can it be trusted ? I might be able to change some of the stuff? could? should?what if?..all those kinds of questions come flying in and all at once). Plus the other biggy for me is I am always expecting it all to be taken away anyway so what's the point - so I go to sabotage it before that happens. Lets not even get started on my inner self critics as well

It's tough to struggle with the why's..sending gentle thoughts your way
((CD))

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