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your T said a couple of years down the road you could possibly work at his/her office?

I'm in T training currently and my T said to me at the beginning of my session last week that if I wanted to work there in a couple of years that I would have to stop being her client.

Hmmm...does she mean it or is she just trying to get rid of me? I've been a client for over 2 years. T and I have had a fairly good working relationship. T has said to me in the past that she feels like this is more of a mentor relationship at times. At other times though her boundaries seem weak to me. We are more like friends/colleagues most of the time during my sessions. I know a ton about her life and her struggles. She has helped me immensely dealing with my struggles as well, so it's not that it is always about her and her issues.

Ethically I would need to stop being her client soon in order for me to work at the same clinic. I'm torn about that. Ending with her brings up tough feelings, of course. There is still a potential that working at that clinic could get weird if she is still there and I'm there too. The whole power differential thing and our past relationship could cause slippage of info. about me or other issues. Hmm...if she is supervising me that could be strange also. Then again, she might not even be at that clinic in the near future due to her other career goals that she has told me about. I probably will end up ending with her soon seeing as my insurance w/her runs out. I just need to prepare for that and deal with it. It's going to be tough to say goodbye.
Ok...I'm worrying WAY too much about the future!
Back to the present...
Time to write a paper and finish my article reading....

Thanks for reading my ramblings!
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Thank you for your thoughts, Dragonfly!

It is a great compliment that she thinks that I could work there and possibly with her! Smiler

The other thing is that through school I can get free counseling, so going to another person there may give me a chance to see how a different therapist works. I could get a a new perspective from another person who uses a different approach.
I've also heard that it is difficult to get placed in a clinic with so many students in the program and not a whole lot of clinics in my area. A lot of people I've heard of have to travel two hours away to get to their work/internship site. If I have my foot in the door at this particular clinic, I would only have to travel 15-20 minutes away from home.

Ending with T is HUGE though! We are just getting deeper and healing childhood wounds. I think I'm doing well. Going into this field I do need to find out what termination is and how it feels. ugh. It's going to happen at some point.

Ok..I'm still debating this. I'll talk w/T at session this week.

off to do more reading....abuse related reading, so tough emotionally...very triggering....
I agree that to have your T offer something like this is a HUGE compliment! It's a very tempting offer! I like what BG said - definitely fully and from all possible angles, explore this with your T.

The only thought that popped into my head is that what if you still want her to be your T? Just because you are a T doesn't need you will be automatically free of anything that you currently might want to talk to a T about. As nice as it would be to work with her, it might also be nice to have her as YOUR T as you embark on a new career. Maybe she could put in a good word or give you a recommendation to another practice, if you choose to stay with her as a client?

Just throwing it out there - no matter what, I'd be hugely proud that she even considered it!

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