hi, Ang. what if you wrote the letters, like your T said, to help get the anger out? write them without the intention of sharing them with your abusers. i can see where that could be therapeutic. just a thought. good luck and keep us posted.

I did he wants me to send them to confront them

(((AG)))

It doesn't sound like you are ready to confront your abusers. Writing out the thoughts and feelings can be a good way to process stuff. You don't have to send them. Then again, it could be traumatic to write it out. It should be your call.

i agree with Liese that is sounds like you're not ready to confront them. i'd keep the discussion open with your T, maybe have him help you with the fear of confronting them? is it even necessary for you to confront them?

Thank you. Yes at some point I think so.

I remember my T telling me that he thought I should just confront my dad early in my therapy. I literally told him to shut up. BUT ...it was the beginning of working through the abuse and getting real with it all and then about a year later I chose to actually confront my abuser. It was a really freeing experience. ALL THAT SAID you really have to be at a place of peace and that you cannot expect anything from your abuser. This confrontation is when you are ready to let it go and be at peace FINALLY...It is a journey...and it deserve time and preparation. Tell your T you are not ready and begin to address the feelings that come up around confrontation....take your time