I share, open up...leave there and hate myself for even sharing what I shared because I feel as if I betray myself when I open up. This is what it always comes back to for me.
I asked him today if I could make a Saturday appointment. I was hoping he would understand the turmoil and backlash I have every week from just opening up...but not a reply.
To me, when he doesn't reply...he is no different than any other major person who was supposed to not hurt me and yet, they do.
I don't understand how someone can tell you they care...etc, and then watch you struggle without helping. What the hell?
I don't know how else to tell him I am struggling. Therapy is about opening up and if I can't even do that without freaking out...WHAT THE HELL?
I had a dream about him...he was in the courtyard observing a brown haired, brown eyed girl...just watching...and the next scene the little girl is below ground and I get underground with her and I am using everything within me to get her above ground...you know what? He is just standing there watching. He is not offering to help...he is just observing.
What does that say? I have to do all this damn work while he sits and watches?
I am so pissed off...at him...at the process...specifically at myself...because I keep betraying myself. It is easier to go in there and keep my mouth shut...at least there will be no backlash...but if I don't talk...all this **it just stays inside of me...
I don't understand and I have told him so. I am confused by this process. I hate him. I hate that he is not coming alongside me and saying "I am here..."
I want to look at him and tell him, "**ck YOU!You are not here...you say you are...but you are really not."
Does all the work we do even matter to the Therapist? Does it?
I almost texted him today to tell him I quit. I **ckin' quit. The only reason I didn't is because it is after hours.
Maybe I am not ready to do this. I thought if I pushed myself that some of this toughness of the process would dissipate...yet, it hasn't.
Maybe I am not ready. Perhaps I just need to accept this. I thought when I was open I could get past this but the backlash of opening up and the feeling of betraying myself is great.
I would appreciate any constructive feedback. Has anyone experienced a feeling of betraying themselves when opening up? How did you get past it...and if someone says talk to the therapist...I WILL SCREAM...
Thank you for listening. And for those going through a tough time in therapy, I am sorry this is negative.
T.