I think that is pretty typical. If she has stated that is what she is going to do then I would just leave it at that. It is her place to let you know if she needs it to be different. My old T raised her rates last year. I think she gave about a months notice and it applied to everyone.Read More...

So... It seems like for many of us, our attachment style might vary based on the OTHER individual, as opposed to being set in one style regardless of who we're dealing with. I have a very strong internal locus of control (over 70%), so I guess I wasn't expecting that the scores and quadrants would vary so much based on who we're dealing with. Very illuminating! Maybe this should have been obvious, but I guess I was thinking that if we're "x" then we're always "x", regardless of the...Read More...

Liese...yup, I felt it! Thank you Starry-fish and Flagondry, I mean Dragonfly! It means the world to me that you "get it." Love you, BeebsRead More...

Hi Tessa, I always play with my wedding ring. I slide it to the end of my finger and put it back on. The reason I do it is that I gained a lot of weight since I got married and now I've lost some and it's a way for me to feel if I've gained or lost some weight back or if I'm bloated. I don't think it's related to my feelings for my H but it might be. I've done it a long time.Read More...

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Just on my own. It helps me relax/clear my head sometimes too.Read More...

thanks. i do not regret therapy and my pain amongst all this. ITS ALL GOOD. get to know yourself, and having therapy advice is still important, and a beautiful intimate wise space to be in too xxRead More...

Such a beautiful story TN and you absolutely deserve every accolade and congratulation. They went to such great trouble and it sounds like it was just perfect. Yay SDRead More...

(((((Athenacus))))) With the way you describe what your son knew in kindergarten and before kindergarten, he sounds perfectly fine. I've heard that in homes where there is emotional turmoil, kids can have symptoms that mimic ADHD and sometimes their symptoms get mistaken for that. My son was given a real IQ test by the school psychologist when he was in second grade. The psychologist told me that he let my son do whatever he wanted and my son wanted to walk around the room the whole time -...Read More...

Hi Anna, I know it can be so upsetting, but his reactions do NOT mean that you have done anything wrong. It may be that you need someone who will allow between-session contact/emails, and he just isn't that one. Or, you may decide as I did, that your T is worth the no-email policy because of everything else about him - how safe you feel with him, how much you trust him, etc. I love my T and fully believe that he does things in MY best interests, so I stayed even when I was really hurt. In...Read More...

Thanks Morgs and HI! I'll def check in as much as I can BG- I think itll be a record the more I keep telling her how thankful I am cos for the last 2 sessions we BOTH have shed some tears. Her more thOugh when she read aloud a thank you letter I had written to her tee hee. But I think it'll be good to reflect on where I was when I first started with her up to this point in time. If I may say so myself, I'm pretty awed and proud of myself of how far I've come. I feel like a completely...Read More...

Hey effed. Thanks for your support . I made it to my saturday session, yes. That's the thing, I need to talk to her regardless of a lot of things that go on, I need someone there to listen to me. After all my life not having it, I crave it now. I'm going to be continuing therapy with someone else. I had an assessment and they diagnosed mem BPD (which I still question sometimes) but anyway, I'll be having therapy with a psychologist from the mental health team.Read More...

Haha. Sadly, yes, that reminded me of last session when I was trying to get her to out the reason why she became a therapist (yes I was suspicious, perhaps in order to push her away) and she cleverly managed to turn it around onto me and eventually made me cry about my own Mother!. So annoying. I wanted to out her on something and she outed me! She's smart. Too smart. Sometimes it really annoys me. Last session she said something along the lines of 'well, this can never be a normal...Read More...

This thread is awesome lol. I can't imagine my therapist doing anything like that. I think its because I've put her in this image of perfection which isn't good really. I forget that she is just human sometimes. She's so small and dainty though that her farting would probably crack me up or make me feel really awkward. I only imagine her eating cup cakes with fine bone china tea whilst gliding slowly around the garden patio. The fact that she does and experiences all bodily functions as we...Read More...

1) Emu's are one of my favorite animals. (I actually had the pleasure of seeing one whilst I was on the train going past a small farm here in the UK last week! Very exciting!). 2) I have the habit of obsessive compulsive spartanism (the opposite to hoarding). I get like it when I attempt to reduce my belongings to nothing. I think it is to do with anxiety/the need to not be defined because I go through identity issues anyway. I'm still not sure why I do it but it makes me feel very clear...Read More...

And now, here I am again, completely triggered, thinking thoughts I haven't had in a long time, because of being in a situation that I wouldn't have to be in if I just did what my T is wantin me to do. And I completely get why, but I just don't know if I can. But I also don't know if I can handle this either. I feel like I'm going to lose it. I keep seeing flashes of myself in my head completely falling apart or just going crazy. And any time I'm out walking or doing something I look down at...Read More...

i just went out hoping to find someone to have a ONS with because of this, but came back alone lol with my senses back. hes just turned me into a horny womanRead More...

Go figure that this hilarious thread finally gets me to post. Hi, and thanks. Last session T and I were having an intense moment. I became frustrated and said, "F%#@ a duck!" He said, "What's that like?" and I immediately replied, "Fowl." He started laughing and then replayed it in his mind and laughed harder. He said, "Hey, do I have permission to use that?" I said, "Uh, sure," bemused at his reaction. Then he said the whole exchange out loud again, like two people, and kept laughing. It's...Read More...

Hi audirak I'm sorry things are so difficult for you right now. Transference is SOOOO hard to deal with sometimes. And the boundaries can be extremely painful. But like SD said, it might be what you NEED, even if it's not what you WANT. I think most of us would agree that talking things through with T is usually the best way to cope. I know for myself that was the most terrifying option. I couldn't see how I would even get the words out. But I did, and it has really helped me accept that...Read More...

NavyMe, I believe that our worth is integral to our being. That any human being is of infinite worth and deserving of love and care and attention. But though our worth is inherent, our sense of it is not. We must learn to "feel" our worth by having a loving other reflect that worth back to us. If we did not have that, which many of us did not, we learned a lie instead. That we were worthless. Some of us even learned that WANTING to feel worthwhile was an inherently bad thing to do. One of...Read More...

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Thanks to all of you for your kind words and presenting me with such affirmation. I do care deeply for the people in this community, and its lovely to know that, by and large , it's returned. I also am happy to see so many people acknowledging the support and acceptance that they have found here. I know what this community has meant in my own life; it's good to see other people feel the same way. I am going to close the thread at this point since people have had a chance to comment who...Read More...

I would prefer cake...but he would not.Read More...

Hi everyone, thank you all so much for your kind responses, it means such a lot to me. Talking about transference with my T. has never been a problem for me as I felt comfortable talking with her from our first session and she is happy to work through it with me, even if as she says, many of her colleagues would run a mile!! I saw T. last night and told her I had been worried about her and she reassured me she was fine, so I'm feeling a lot better today. Knowing that there are kind people...Read More...