Hi Raven, I think Catalyst said this really well. I don't have much more to add, but did want to chime in and say that I was told something similar by my T when I expressed concern over the possibility that I might unknowingly manufacture a memory if I began exploring some fragments. She said she thought it was still a good idea to try and talk about it, because even if what I "remembered" was not exactly what happened, what was important was the effect it had on me and that was something we...Read More...

Hi born, OUCH. That sounds awful... but you're in the right place... I think almost everyone here has at least experienced the high-octane feelings you're talking about, if not the outright rejection on top of that. Please continue to post if it makes you feel better... is there really no hope of you seeing a therapist regularly? Big hugs, effedRead More...

(((AG))) Always enjoy reading David Wallin! Thanks for posting. LieseRead More...

I think as long as we are in an intimate relationship with ourselves is what matters most?Read More...

That's how I feel today - I don't want to see her again. I'm finding all the reasons why she's not doing a good job or why I should be mad at her. I went to pdoc the other day and he said age had sent him a note stating I was quitting my meds. I did tell her I had cut down and wanted to quit, but assured her I would talk to him first. I was mad that she contacted him behind my back and that she didn't trust me to talk to him. Now, the logical, adult me knows I'm being ridiculous, yet it...Read More...

Ahhh, yes, I've read this article. In fact, I've read most of this blog I really like how well the author breaks things down and keeps it "real" for us. Good for you for jumping into reality head first! It hurts for a while, but it really is worth it in the long run. (((Athenacus)))Read More...

I'm skimming through the blog and I absolutely love it. The Drunk Dialing entry was hilarious! Love this guy!!!Read More...

1. Are you Married? Yes, it will be 26 years in May (which believe me seen from some angles is a miracle. We came close to splitting around six years ago.) 2. Close with your parents? No, my dad is dead, which didn't make a lot of difference since I didn't see him for 28 years before his death (there's a post on here somewhere or see "Forgiveness" on my blog for that full story.) I barely speak to my mother by my choice. 3. How many people can you tell your deepest darkest secrets too male...Read More...

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((((((lg))))))) It's so good to hear from you. It sounds like the bond and the emotions between you and your T goes really deep... thinking of you, janeRead More...

Hi Jane, One of the biggest needs that any of us has is to be listened to and heard. You are scared of hearing yourself in case you can't meet all of your own needs. But simply in listening and hearing - even just a little at a time - you will be already meeting a need. Needs don't come in all or nothing... we eat a little bit of food and it nourishes us, even if we don't get the whole feast at once - which maybe our tummies couldn't handle anyway. xxJRead More...

Hey Autumn, I was happy too that I was able to do it. Part of it for me is not being able to get past my love feelings for my T. It's not as intense as it was before. It feels more stable now. I feel more stable, although I'm sure some of you would beg to differ considering my most recent threads. But I do feel like the relationship is something I can count on. My T's wedding ring came off a year and a half ago. My problem is that when he shows up with a ring on his finger that will be the...Read More...

((((AUTUMN))))) As difficult as this has all been for you, you are approaching it with a great sense of responsibility to yourself while still acknowledging the potential for uncertainty. The thing that I am coming to realize in my own work and what I see you coming to terms with is that sometimes in order to be true to ourselves, we have to deal with a little uncertainty. I know in the past I'd rather have the sure thing even if it wasn't good for me than to acknowledge how something might...Read More...

I went to watch this film last week and thought it was alright. Absolutely loved Viggo as Freud! Keira gets a bit creepy with her acting sometimes (I still have the image of her jaw printed in my brain - don't ask). Halfway through the film the dialogue between Otto/Freud/Jung gets really boring because I zoned out and have no memory of what they were talking in some of those bits. The freaky bit was going to the afternoon session, and I could swear all the (older) people in the cine room...Read More...

That's great to hear! I'm really happy for you!I think it's such a great feeling to feel so cared for in that way by our Ts.Read More...

That's weird. Of course he does!Read More...

(((((BB))))) So glad to hear it all. Thanks for the explanation re: the attachment stuff. It is helpful to me because you know I was in the same place as you. Any insights gained for you are insights gained for me. xoxoxoxo LieseRead More...

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Not only did I invite my three previous T's to my wedding, but they all came and one even did the ceremony and some years later invited me to hers.Read More...

How are you now? I have just now read this thread and sorry I did not get here sooner, I am in the UK and know a bit about the system. A GP can refer you to have an assessment by a clinical psychologist. You have to be really REALLY upfront about how bad your symptoms are, as these guys are under staffed and trying to weed people OUT of their books. I got a really REALLY good psychologist that way, but it was a three month wait from asking GP to getting to see the P. Then you are in good...Read More...

((((Cipher)))) Thank you!! I am so glad you are taking what I'm saying as supportive of you, because that's exactly my intention. So, I hope you don't mind if I get up on my soapbox, in response to what you said your T would say. This is something I feel extremely passionate about. And as your T would probably point out, I am not a T. But I AM a parent, so I've experienced attachment needs from that viewpoint. And I also experienced them as a child and know how that went for me. So here is...Read More...

xoxo, I read the link. I thought it was interesting how changing the tone or projection made such a difference. I can't relate on the mother part but just to say that my mom was in my feeling passive...my brother has told her that. Unfortunately, I was too passive also as I was informed this afternoon by my daughter but not for the reasons she thinks...something I have to live with but as of now she is not holding it against me. I know this sounds weird but I would be so scared when my dad...Read More...

(((LAURA))) You did really well. I think you are right that I took him off the pedestal. He isn't very familiar working through the transference. I am his guinea pig. And so, that could have to do with his youth, his inexperience. The fakeness of his teeth, maybe that has to do with how I struggle with the relationship, is it fake or is it real? I think in my life, I seem to enjoy learning from an older experienced male. It's a pattern I've repeated over and over, enjoying relationships with...Read More...