PF, I witnessed a fatal accident on the highway a few weeks ago and pulled over to talk to the cops. It was very upsetting. This car was literally ran off the road by another car right in front of me. It was scary and so surreal at the same time. I kept thinking, "that could have easily have been me!" and then there was also a part of me that felt guilty that it was not me, because the girl who did die was only in her early 20s...and I felt that she probably had a lot more to live for than...Read More...

Thank you for your response Yaku. I really appreciate your thoughts on this. I agree with you that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being attached and it can be a healthy and healing experience and I admire therapists that can embrace the attachment in order to help the client. My old T knew how strongly I felt about her as I would tell her in my own way but I guess we never really discussed it anymore than just to acknowledge it. I don’t plan on ignoring the feelings I have as I know...Read More...

((((( Flutterby )))) thanks! Hm I was just rereading my little list and I came across a contradiction - which seems to have opened up a bit of a can of worms for me. It's where I'm going on about T never assuming s/he knows more than the client about anything. When I wrote that I meant it, but now I realize that I ALSO expect a T to definitely know more about a whole lot of things than I do, especially to do with feelings and how therapy works and stuff about me that I'm not aware of but is...Read More...

Cool idea for a thread. Great songs people Here is a song I just heard the other day and looked up on youtube. I fell in love with it instantly. Sharon Van Etten, One Day http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7m3Ly2A9mboRead More...

incognito Well done you! I am really poud of what you achieved and your ability to turn that situation around so beautifully. starfishyRead More...

Lol TN you're the furthest from crazy that I can think of You got a good point there, that the POOF fear may very well be getting in the way of my attaching. I guess the sad bit is that I don't know what it's like to feel attached, and actually have no desire whatsoever to do so I sort of see it like, getting all the emotional things I need, without my having to GIVE anything in exchange (having spent my life feeling like I'm doing all the giving and getting bugger all in return, long...Read More...

For me, DV and therapy go hand in hand. All my issues for why I am in therapy are related to my abusive relationship with my husband. It would work well for me to have a subforum.Read More...

For all forum users in the UK you can also use the Samaritans by emailing on jo@samaritans.org (good if you get stuck for words talking on the phone) and you can also attend many branches in person as wellRead More...

Hi TN Just to chime in with my thanks for sharing your sessions, they are always honest and useful to read especially for us therapy newbies ThanksRead More...

Thanks for the hugs Liese. I should explain more about today to give you more info. My T did respond to my voicemail with an email this morning addressing some of what I said and telling me he hoped I reconsidered coming in tomorrow for my session. I was upset and called him and asked him to call me and then I wrote him a long email explaining why I was so angry. He called me back at lunchtime and we spoke for 7-8 min. That conversation was difficult. He told me he is willing to talk about...Read More...

[quote]1.) If you could be a celebrity for a month, who would you be? Don't know about this one 2.) What is your favorite beverage? Water doesn't count.(did we have that question already?) Dr. Pepper, lemonade, iced chai 3.) What was the last movie you watched? Last song you listened to? Movie - Mrs. Doubtfire, (why-I don;t know), Song - Beautiful Mess by Jason Mraz 4.) Is there a movie you know the lines to? Tommy Boy, Wizard of Oz 5.) Are you pierced or do you have tattoos? 5 pierced in...Read More...

TN, I enjoyed you post, and agree with your T. I haven't been allowing the attachment. My T has been trying to help me in that regard, I think, but like she said, I detach and withdraw from fear that it's not okay. I often times think that I am projecting my discomfort about the attachment onto her, when in reality she has dealt with attachment clients and helped them work through it, so I know she isn't afraid of it. I just wish she were as open and skilled at expressing her...Read More...

Beebs.... It's okay. I appreciate your hugs. I'm sorry you are missing your T so much and I understand how much it hurts right now. It does get better with time... lots of time and some guidance and support. TNRead More...

((DF)) Thanks for sharing your dream...I think the way it ended is really meaningful, especially since it's different than the norm. I think it shows how much strength you've gained through all of this and a kind of inner knowledge that you can handle this trip. It may seem like it would hurt either way (setting the boundaries or not) but what if the more peaceful ending to your dream is *because* of you setting the boundaries with your parents? It hurts, but you are making yourself safer.Read More...

((((MH))))) Thinking of you. Everything okay?Read More...

((((INCOGNITO))))) Where are you? Everything okay?Read More...

I wish I could talk to my T about my thoughts, but the way she has reacted in the past keeps me from even telling her anything about my 'bad' thoughts now. I'm not sure what I want her to say or how I want her to respond when I bring up my dark thoughts, but I have told her in the past that I just want to be able to talk to someone about them. In the past she will immediately say, "How do you think your kids would feel?" or "You will scar your kids forever" that sort of thing....she has...Read More...

Thanks for sharing, UV. Very good article.Read More...

Frosty, Research has pretty consistently demonstrated that the efficacy of therapy is much more highly correlated with the strength of the theraputic alliance than it is with the modality practiced by the therapist, so no matter what your new P is practicing, the fact that you are feeling comfortable with her is a very good sign. I also think that a therapist's willingness to incorporate more than one approach is a really good sign since humans are complex enough that there really isn't a...Read More...

R2G...I think you should be pleased that you accomplished a few things today like laundry and showering and even the 15 minutes of exercise. Start small and work you way up to bigger things. It's a good feeling isn't it to see work that you have set out to do and then you did it!! Good for you. I know the grass always seems greener ... but I wish I had a few weeks of vacation right now. I'm so tired. But I can understand how that big, yawning time period can feel overwhelming. Does your T...Read More...

Hi Arrested Dev, I really feel for you. I understand what it is to repeat old patterns and the frustration. This is but a moment in time and it doesn't take away any of your progress. You need to recognize your progress even in the face of a slip. This situation can only really hurt you if you use it to beat yourself up. You're not motivated but emotional stress like this causes exhaustion. Get the sleep you need. Process this through thoroughly with your therapist. Look at your personal...Read More...

I started seeing current T for social anxiety. I had just moved to a new area and started a new job, which tends to increase my anxiety so I was trying to get a jump start on finding someone in case my anxiety got bad again. Initially I started seeing her every two weeks but it is sometimes hard to schedule appointments due to my schedule as I work two 12 hour day shifts and two 12 night shifts. So it sometimes ends up being around 3 weeks between appointments. I think I have had around 5 or...Read More...

I can hear in your words how much you love her and care about her and worry about her! I've wanted for so long for my sister and I to be closer. For her to "talk" to me about anything and everything. We don't have that kind of relationship, and never really have, and it makes me very sad. Mostly now she just doesn't have time to talk and she lives 900 miles away. Just let your sister know you are there if she ever does want to talk.Read More...

(((Jane))) (((Monte))) Thanks for the welcomes. The stuff I'm working on now in my sessions is pretty sensitive (self-conscious about it) and probably won't make it onto the OF, but I'm always willing to share one-on-one via PM or maybe in one of the restricted forums in the future.Read More...

((forlorn)) i know the feeling of worrying about what other people think and it having such a big impact on your life and i'm sorry you have this to worry about on top of everything else. hope you're doing ok. puppetRead More...