I was wondering how this was going to all play out....I had read all of the posts in this thread last evening and was lost for words.....so glad that you have intervened Shrinklady! I am still processing/reflecting on all of those posts! SRead More...

It's a sound, like a deep breath out. Sort of like hmmm but with no vocal sounds only the breath. I take it to mean she's upset cause when I usually sigh, it is because I'm feeling sad or sorrow. But I did talk to her about the sighing and she said it is because she thought something I said was very insightful. I'm glad the last session was much better for you though!Read More...

Aw thanks Draggers! Your support is amazing. Ha ha everyone can blame you for encouraging me, now that I seem to be back and posting again. Yeah psychodynamic therapy seems to be the way to go - i'd never really heard of it let alone considered it before joining this forum - I am so glad you guys are here. LLRead More...

Hello UV - seems you’re going through a period of assessing how your therapy is going and coming up with some serious issues? I hope you are able to talk to him about all this and get some assurances from him about what his intentions in regard to your therapy are. Couldn’t help but fix on the same quote Maclove quoted This jumped out at me because that’s exactly how I’ve experienced nearly every therapy relationship I’ve been in - where I’m the one doing the job of the therapist - trying to...Read More...

Hello Jackson and welcome to the forum! I’m glad you brought this thread up as the whole issue of male v female Ts has been dogging me again. Thank you for sharing your story - I’m sorry you have suffered abuse in the past and I’m glad you’ve had relationships with Ts that have been supportive and caring - facets of therapy that seem to be in short supply right now! (I’m referring to the many sad stories of rupture and termination that have been unfolding this month.) Your progress reminds...Read More...

I was worried about this too, since it took me about 7 months to connect. But I have to say that I don’t feel this way at all now. I know that my T understands the process of building a relationship, and he didn’t expect me to be connected to him until I was ready. Personally I don’t think you have to come right out and tell her, unless you really want to of course! There are ways you can show her that you trust her and feel connected to her without actually telling her- for example being...Read More...

ok. Am I there yet?Read More...

I believe Russ is in the middle of a T vacation or perhaps just finished one. I know that was causing some issues. Russ, you around? Hope you are doing ok! ETA: Never mind, I see you Russ. I noticed your comment in TN's thread that I have to get caught up on again.Read More...

I just want to add here that I have forgiven my T numerous other times where he hurt or disappointed me. He HATED disappointing me and I would say that he is just human like the rest of us and I don't expect perfection. I was very forgiving of him on many levels. Once he told me that he didn't deserve to work with someone like me and that it was a privilege for him that I chose to work with him. And that I am so forgiving of his errors. I felt that each time we had a disruption when we...Read More...

UV I see your struggle with this and I hope that my horrible story is not affecting you in a negative way. I remember reading about other abrupt terminations and getting really scared. In fact, I told my T about one of them and he was shocked and said he'd never do that (famous last words I guess). The hardest thing is that there is never a guarantee no matter what a T says to us. I am hypervigilant too and watched my T like a hawk trying to ascertain what he was up to and to read him to see...Read More...

good information, uv. i think my termination meets none of the criteria of a properly handled termination. i will deal with this all later, but thanks. helpful to know. jillRead More...

Welcome Frog! I apologize for not welcoming you sooner.Read More...

Welcome SMB! Sorry I'm so late.Read More...

Dear Forlorn, I deeply feel for you, -this confusion can be so dreadful(?) and suck the best energy out of your (loving) heart.. Dont let it! I truly believe your Love for your T. I can tell. And I agree with you; It`s beyond (above?) the knowlidge and facts, info about your T etc.. Because in a way: You two have a bound and relation, wich intimacy is A LOT stronger then most partners and friends got. (I am sure you know all this, bear over with me for getting teacher-role on you..lol) I can...Read More...

UV great to read your post - I'm so glad you're now feeling good again about your T and therapy. LLRead More...

thank you! you have all been so supportive, a bit overwhelming for me... but i am glad to meet every one of you!Read More...

Forlorn, that is such a nice gesture by your T. I am happy for you. I appreciate you sharing that as it is very heartwarming. KOIRead More...

BTW folks: I ended up NOT giving the lettes. Long story, back and forth.- Anyways; i think it was a good ideaRead More...

Welcome Zivah! I am also still a newbie(?) here at forum, but feel "old in therapi"-game. I understand your conserns about you upcomming therapi- hang in there! Hopefully your new relation with your T will bring light and brightness into your life (and soul) Big words- BUT SO TRUE! Dont bother yourself with burdening thoughts- its normal, but just try to trust that it will be good for you. I was also terrified it would be a mess, and that i would f***it all up, But I`m a living proof- that...Read More...

Thanks for posting this, PG. It was a really interesting article and touched on some stuff that my T and I talked about today. I needed to read it, especially the second quote Maclove put in her post above. All of it, really. Thanks again! MTFRead More...

Thanks (((((PG))))) (((((Draggers))))) and (((((Jill))))) I am feeling much better and much calmer....mlcRead More...

Dragonfly - I found the post on Dissociation by TN. Thanks for the info!Read More...

Hi again all...Just popping in to say that I'm resting comfortably and being waited on by my son and my dh. I'm feeling a tiny bit better each day and my appetite is back and I'm eating well. I'm lucky in that my dh is a great cook. I've been sleeping a lot and reading and watching baseball games on TV. It's been hard to deal with the helpless feelings....where I cannot do for my son or even myself right now all that I would like to do. I just tell myself in time I'll be back to normal. I'm...Read More...

I’m sorry, Forlorn. I know, it really sucks to have to deal with people like this. I think you are totally in the right, just with the fact that she is supposed to be the authority in the situation, but that comment she left you, WOW! That’s just rude. I had this one teacher senior year of high school who sounds almost exactly like the teacher you are dealing with. I know for a fact that she had personal issues with me, and at the end of the year we got in a really big fight. She completely...Read More...

zimmy, this is all just transference stuff speaking to you. i am NOT trying to minimize the ALARM you are feeling, but, hoping to let you see some perspective. i don't intend to not be KIND, but, i have had some real TERRORS lately, that, fortunately, my husband has been able to tell me i have gone down the TRANSFERENCE/MOMMY ISSUES ALARM TRAIN, that it ISN'T the reality i am attributing it to. i've been there, in tears last week with the same stuff (and i am more than twice your age...) so...Read More...